I know how mine gets irritated - sit-ups. I just have no padding there at all (in deference to the rest of my well-padded body), and the situps cause the skin to be crushed between the bones of my pelvis/coccyx and the floor/mat/pad/towel. Bruising and abrasions ensue.
During Boxercise, when we are expected to do situps on the wooden dance hall floor, I have to go find a pad as it is too painful otherwise - with the pad it just hurts.
I noticed this during yoga. There are 2 things I do to minimize the grinding (ouch!). One is to train that tailbone to kind of ‘tuck under’. It takes a little practice, but what you want is to minimize that inward ‘bow’ of your lower back which is making the tailbone poke outward. The other thing is, when on the mat, before doing situps or similar exercises, kind of wallow around with your butt so that you situate the tailbone between the butt muscles. That way, they bear more of the weight/force. If you need better butt muscles, I recommend lunges.
Wash well with lye soap; dry with slick catalog pages. Apply copious amounts of alcohol and cover said slot with large adhesive pads. Place mass quantities of duct tape over adhesive pads. Take two aspirin and don’t bother calling every again.
I recommend applying some Vaseline Intensive Care.
Unfortunately, with the weather getting colder, the relative humidity in the air goes down, and it dries everything out. You know, the whole Juneau effect.
It is lots of gym work (including lunges) and running that has caused contraction of said glutes to the point that I am really flat in the arse. Sitting for long periods actually hurts because I compress my glutes against my pelvis. I used to be able to drive for hours (7-8 hours sometimes) - now I need to stop after a couple. When I lie back, I either rest on the tips of my pelvis or my coccyx. It looks pretty good, just useless for sit-ups.
I watched an early Jean-Claude VanDamme movie the other day (Kickboxer) on TV - I couldn’t quite believe the roundness of his backside (not in that way, either). Mine just does not do that, and it gets heaps of working out. I want to get these sit-ups beaten, though, so I will just suffer. A flat belly to go with the flat butt is worth the pain
Witch hazel. Tucks medicated pads are soaked with witch hazel, chiefly. Buy a container and use them. This presupposes that you are performing adequate daily hygiene in that area.