So… The consensus among those chastising Ambivalid is… what, exactly? Despite the laws which clearly lay out society’s determination that close parking spaces be set aside for the disabled, he should react to someone flouting that expectation by… slinking away?
Why isn’t the “troublemaker” the one parking in apace that he is not entitled to?
And … How is it appropriate to hand wave authentic concern as “you can’t go o the store you want.”
If he were gay, and prevented from entering the store because a bigoted store owner refused him entry, the computer screens would scorch with the heat of vitriol directed at the store owner. Not many people here would say, “Hey, just walk away, what’s the big deal?”
Jamie, the threads you should be acknowledging are the ones you won’t find- they haven’t been written as people didn’t make a big deal of the situation.
Look at this dispassionately. Some guy who you thought had no animosity tries to give you some advice because of your behaviour (which you have described to him). He wouldn’t proffer the advice if he wasn’t aware of some issues. Whether you wish to acknowledge it or not, you are thought to have baggage. Your obsession with these perceived infringements on your existence are worrying.
Since your post about the elderly gentleman, everyone with any credibility who has posted has said to let it go. Yet you are still trying to bolster your position (s).
And what in my behavior in the described incident could possibly be considered “dickish” to anyone? A man walks up to a young man sitting in a wheelchair in between two cars (one of which belongs to that man in the wheelchair), looking at one of the cars and is asked if the car belongs to him. When he answers “no” and asks what the problem is, the man in the wheelchair simply says, “Oh, it’s just parked illegally.” Now considering this is occurring in the handicapped section of the parking lot, what, exactly, should the man in the wheelchair have done differently? Ignored the illegally parked car? Is that what is being advised here? Never do anything at all?
“Your obsession with these perceived infringements on your existence are worrying”
This quote of yours is ridiculous. Simply ridiculuous.
You asked what is being “dickish”. That’s been explained to you by a number of people. It has nothing to do with whether the car is parked illegally. The two are not related. You’re on your third gym and you can’t understand why people are not infatuated with a self-appointed parking policeman intent on getting someone a ticket.
No one (including you) has described to me what it was about the behavior I demonstrated in the OP that anyone could describe as “dickish”. I won’t hold my breath.
Look man, when I made new threads on similar subjects I got hammered because people told me I should just resurrect old threads. Ok, so I do that and I get hammered for bringing up the subjects at all.
These issues are an active part of my life. Just because I repeatedly post about the topic doesn’t mean I repeatly post similar stories. And I am offended at you likening my threads to “people not returning shopping carts.”
This “thread” (within a thread) wasn’t even about handicap parking; not really. It was about the bizarre behavior of an older man who had absolutely no provocation for his actions (or words, more precisely).
I hadn’t heard he’d been kicked out of a second gym.
But let’s say he has, and let’s further say that, as you posit, the members of gym #3 are irritated at Jamie’s spirited objections to their parking in handicap spaces when they are not handicapped.
Why are you sympathetic to them? In other words, it seems to me that even if they dislike the additional risk of getting ticketed or towed, and blame Jamie,they are being unreasonable. It’s like an armed robber getting pissed at the temerity of the sales clerk who dared to press the alarm button. Yes, undoubtedly, those that break the law seldom joyously embrace those who report them. But their ire is unreasonable.
Actually quite a few people have explained it to you.
And no, you’ve not demonstrated in the op that anyone could be described as “dickish”. All you’ve demonstrated is that you don’t understand why you’ve been kicked out of gyms or why people react to you the way they do.
who said I had sympathy for them? Do you also need it explained to you that people have no great love of someone obsessed with parking space violations?
How am I obsessed? Because I write about them here? Because I notice it happening IRL? Dude, I am directly impacted by the violations, how could I not develop a rather ‘keen eye’ for them? What about this OP demonstrated “obsession”? And please be clear.
because multiple people you don’t know have rendered an opinion based on what you’ve written as well as the reaction of people who you interact directly with.
Your response is pronounce those responses as non-credible or ridiculous. The people who have responded have no vested interest in whether you eventually figure it out. They took the time to respond and the responses are meant to help you.
