How do I convince her (wife related)

That might work, or it might also backfire hugely. Remember it wasn’t long ago that Lady Chance herself was, as JC said, under her high school weight. She might also miss being that size.

Jonathan, you sound so sincere and real about what you are saying about your wife. I’m thinking she will see that and love you more for it.

You are going to have to accept, though, that it is most important for her to be happy with her body. A lot of personal confidence is tied up in body image and I bet confidence is something you also find beautiful and sexy.

See…you can’t really miss here! :slight_smile:

Jonathan, you’re a doll to even want to try!

I wieghed about 105-110 before I got pregnant the first time (5’1"), and after the second I settled in at about 135. Not fat by any stretch, but it felt totally wrong to me. Irrational but true. So there.

So, I did something about it- changed the way I ate and lost 25 pounds. I got down to 105 but am now hovering around 110, eating better and enjoying it. I am even buying a new bikini for our Mexico trip next month!

Hubby helped a lot, just by supporting me in whatever I wanted. He went on the same diet, lost 35 pounds (the bastard :wink: ) but never ever disparaged my form, whatever form I was in. He loved my new curves, and thought privately that I was too skinny before.

Sadly, many of those curves are gone now, but my hips are still a little curvy (although I do miss those breast-feeding hooters!) and my belly may never be as flat as it once was. But who cares? I am 37, not 17.

If your wife does decide to try and lose some wight, have her keep a couple of things in mind-

  1. Her body is different now, forever. That’s not bad, it just is.

  2. It took her a long time to gain that weight, she shouldn’t expect to lose it in an instant (even if she did before). If you spend a year putting it on, expect to spend almost that long taking it off!

Eh, wine her, dine her… you know what comes next! :wink:

You’re a good man, Charlie Brown.

Nothing you say will penetrate the BS Meter that resides inside of every woman’s brain.

What You Say: " Honey, I like the way you are."

What She Hears, " I’m just trying to get laid again sometime in the foreseeable future."
What You Say, “You look nice.”

What She Hears, " Nice? Not gorgeous or beautiful. Just Nice? I’ve been downgraded to Nice. What’s next a muumuu and ganny panties?"

You will never win.