One of the guys at work has been going through an extremely messy, awkward, and painful separation from his de facto partner of some seven years.
He’s not taking it well, and it’s gotten to the point where it’s affecting his work and he’s drinking too much (he’s never shown up late for work or called in sick unreasonably or anything like that, though), and he’s quite obviously depressed. The store manager and I have done everything we can to help him (including referring him to the company’s free counselling service, provided by an independent firm).
It’s very frustrating for everyone, and the story got a lot sadder this morning when he came into work all excited and telling us that he’d received a really long (and wholly unsolicited) E-mail from young woman in Russia who lived in a small village with her mum and sister and wanted a better life and opportunities…
Yes, I see your eyebrows raising in doubt much the same as mine did.
Anyway, it turns out that this poor chap actually replied to this E-mail. I tried explaining to him that it was, at best, spam, and at worst- well, had he seen Birthday Girl? He hadn’t? Then he had best sally forth unto the local House of Pre-Recorded Digital Video Disc Rental and rectify that forthwith.
It gets worse. He got a reply to his reply today. I’ve just spent 25 minutes on the phone trying to convince him this whole thing is a scam, con, or generally not something he wants to be involved in. This woman says that she’s now leaving her small village to travel to Moscow, where the introduction agency will finalise the necessary paperwork to allow her to travel to Australia.
I’ve told him repeatedly that the next stage of this will be the “I need money to pay for (insert fees), please help me”. “That’s OK” he says. “I don’t have any money”. :smack:
To cut a long story very short, I’m banging my head against a wall here trying to convince him that the best thing he can do is just delete the E-mails and not think about them anymore, and that responding to them is just going to turn out badly for him in the long run.
Now, I’m prepared to accept that there may be an attractive Russian woman out there who’s decided to find a Western Husband by sending out a non-specific E-mail to a massive list of E-mail addresses, but my Bullshit Alarm is sounding… I’m at a loss at to how to adequately explain to this bloke how important it is that he just walk away right now and give the matter no further thought.
Any ideas or suggestions that don’t involve “playing along”? I know some people just can’t be told, but any tips or advice would me most appreciated…