You’ve got some good advice and I’ll just add one more little tid-bit. Don’t be afraid to refuse to answer any question that’s too personal or none of his business. He needs to learn what’s OK and not OK to talk about, even with a sibling.
The “Is your XYZ big?” question should merit a response like “That’s none of your business and you should know that it’s way to personal a question to ask anyone, even me.” or something to that effect.
Puberty comes with physical and social changes and he’ll need to be able to handle both. If you answer “none of your business” to those inappropriate questions then he’ll have that amunition to use when one of his friends asks a too personal question.
START–approach your father & step-mother when the 3 of you are alone.
Ask them for guidence on how they want to handle this.
Hint that the kid may be afraid to ask questions, & politely remind them that the street is a pisspoor place to get good info on sex.
I hope you don’t mind a stupid question (kind of a hijack). You said that this is your “soon to be official Step-Mom.” Is she married to your father? If so, isn’t she automatically your stepmother?
They are dating but not married yet…they do have a ring and a date set. As of now it’s not official.
And just for the record eventhough they live in the same house they sleep in seperate rooms…so that means nothing is going on between them. :dubious: .
It’s weird I get all this great advice and so far no more questions from my bro :smack: …atleast for now.
OK, thanks. I thought perhaps there was something official needed for her to be recognized as your stepmother (aside from the marriage).
As for advice, I agree with those who suggested you go to your stepmother about this. If she approves, you can discuss this stuff with her son. (Note that this whole process might be a good way you can bond with them.)
Start, even though it makes you feel uncomfortable, the kid is really paying you a compliment by trusting you enough to ask questions.
If he is old enough to ask the question, he is old enough to have a straight but simple answer. (You don’t have to volunteer any additional details until he asks about something else.)
If you don’t know the answer to something, just tell him you honestly don’t know for sure yourself.
Resist any temptation to make fun of his questions.
And good luck! Being able to talk about it is just part of growing older.