:)I think plenty of kids rebel, even with ‘open’ parents, they’ll find some way to piss off their parents. Even if it’s just to see how far they can push the boundaries or, for that matter, they’re not rebelling, but it looks that way to the parents.
I’d wager that parents that teach their kids it’s okay to have sex or smoke weed or generally be their own person as long as their being safe about it (protection and understanding of risk for sex, not driving or letting their friends drive while high, etc) probably have kids that don’t go buck wild as soon as their out of the house. In fact, no cite, but I thought I’ve heard that kids in certain parts of Europe (ie France) don’t have as much of a problem with binge drinking in college since they basically have been drinking (at least to a certain extent) for a few years already.
IOW, kids do things that their parents disapprove of for any number of reasons. If their parents don’t disapprove or even if they do but they still educate them, those things aren’t a big deal. Talk to kids in college that got high with their parents and see (I’m actually curious) if they’re getting high multiple times a day like the rest of us were…the ones that are finally ‘on our own’.
But, of course, it should be noted that some kids will always find a way to rebel. Also, just because the parents are open minded, doesn’t mean that’s what the kids want. Some kids want/need structure and rules and need their parents to tell them that getting high is wrong or that they shouldn’t have sex in high school. Not as rebellion, but because they either need the structure to function* or because they think their parents are wrong.
*I feel like several of the kids I’ve known with ‘cool parents’ (ya know, the friends you had who’s house you would go over to because you could smoke weed in the basement) ended up joining the armed forces.
Come to think of it, I also think a lot of these kids had very young parents, though I’m not sure if they had kids at a young age because they were irresponsible or having kids at a young age made them less likely to discipline their kids because they were trying to be friends with their kid.
TL;Dr Different strokes for different folks (and scooby dooby dooby).