I saw a lot of couples walking on Friday afternoon, and I got to thinking–how do you and your SO hold hands. Do you interlace fingers (that’s what I do), or do you clasp hands? Do you think one “means more” than the other?
It’s always my left into her right (she is deaf in her left ear), fingers interlocked. If we’re feeling on the casual side, she will hang onto my pinkie finger.
Sometimes we lace fingers, sometimes we clasp hands. I think we clasp most of the time and lace when we’re feeling especially lovey. It’s not a conscious gesture. The only thing that IS a conscious gesture is this: I MUST be on his left side, or he feels funny. No reasons other than comfort. I don’t care one way or the other about how we hold hands, but he prefers to hold my right in his left, so that’s how we do it.
I generally hold her hands when she is attempting to strike me.
We play with each other’s hands while we hold hands - sometimes interlaced, sometimes clasped, sometimes just pinky to pinky, sometimes arms around each other. Sometimes our Perfect Child[sup]TM[/sup] thinks we should get a room…
It varies, but when we’re out in public I prefer to have him on my right, because I carry my purse on my left shoulder.
More than holding hands I like to put my left arm through his right and walk together that way. Sort of old fashioned I guess but I like it.
He’s almost always on my right side when we’re just walking but when we’re on a sidewalk near a street he insists on walking on the street side. We usually lace fingers unless I’m “dragging” him somewhere.
Kitty
Depends. Sometimes we interlace fingers, sometimes we clasp hands, sometimes we just lay our hands together, palms facing.
Sometimes one or both of us will gently clasp the other’s fingers, sometimes we just interlink pinkies.
They are all meaningful. It’s physical contact with someone I love, the most important person in the world to me. It’s a confirmation that, after knowing each other for a quarter of a century, we’re still there for each other.
I actually have no idea. I think it’s a casp, but I’m not sure. It really doesn’t matter, though.
The one thing that I have noticed is that I tend to be on his right (he tends to be on my left–whatever). I think this is because I’m right-handed and he’s left-handed. That position allows us to both have our most useful hands free.
Again…I think.
Usually, I’m on the left, she’s on the right, and our fingers our interlocked. Sometimes I’ll just clasp her hand, and two of our fingers will wrap around each other.
She has trouble going uphill on rollerblades, so we’ll often hold hands doing that. It’s so fun. 
I just cram her hand down my pants.
You are my hero…
Five years now with my one true love. If I ever have to start paying attention to how to “properly” hold her hand, I would be crushed. Whether it be right hand on top of her left while driving or the “high five” hand clasp of a victorious hug, or the soft brushing of fingertips across the backside of her hand while she is engrossed in a favorite television show, We have many unique and spontaneous ways of discharging our deep subliminal feelings through the contact of our hands, changing constantly with the weather, the song, the moment. Sorry if I got mushy. I love my wife.
SO and I don’t hands in the normal way. My hands are so small and his are so big that I just hold on to his index finger. He doesn’t realise that when I sqeeze it’s not affection… I’m trying to break his fingers off.
And that’s also why he won’t cram my hand down his pants!
All kinds of ways.
Try doing the “finger EFF”. You know, gently take your index or middle finger and slide it between your mates fingers where they meet on the hand. That should do it! Let me know.
When holding hands it’s always interlocked fingers, although we often do the ‘her arm through mine’ thing.
Can be on either side, but, whichever side she, my wrist is always crosses in front to hold hers. This is just a comfort thing, probably simply because I’m taller. Anyone else noticed this?
Hold hands?? In public??!! You people are sick.
We’re with dreamer on this one - it is usually with her arm through mine. When we do hold hands, she usually just holds onto my finger.
When we travel in the car I always rest my right hand on her left thigh.
Always interlacing fingers. Hand-clasping is when I’m holding a stranger’s hand (church, picnic games, etc.).