As some of you may know, I’m in the second year of a biological sciences doctoral program.
I still find my project interesting and engaging, but I suck as a graduate student. I work a lot, but there’s something wrong with me. I’m slow, I’m stupid, and I screw things up an awful lot. It’s pretty obvious to everyone that I’m the runt of the lab litter.
There’s only so much shame and humiliation I can take. If I just don’t have it in me to do well, I’d rather cut my losses and do something else. I don’t want to give up prematurely, though; if I’m likely to get better with time and practice, then it’s worth it to me to keep going.
I’m trying to decide if I should stay or go. All of you academic dopers–what would you recommend?
Stuff that I can do at least competently enough (about 2% of what’s actually required):
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[li]Reading and understanding theory- or math-heavy papers.[/li][li]Noticing interesting things in papers that lead to good questions.[/li][li]Coming up with good feedback on manuscripts, thesis proposals, etc.[/li][/ol]
I’ve been told that these things are rare and valuable. I have yet to see any actual practical advantage in them, though.
Stuff that I’m remarkably bad at (about 98% of what’s actually required):
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[li]Lab work–getting it done efficiently and well. I seem to need five times longer than anyone else to get anything done. My mind wanders. I drop things. I get sidetracked and then screw up something important.[/li][li]Programming. Actually, I’m not so terrible at the coding itself. But there’s always some sort of practical thing–getting data to load, for example–that I screw up, making my attempts at programming completely useless.[/li][li]Learning any kind of practical lab- or computer-based skill. Other people learn after being shown once. I always need to be shown something a zillion times over. I’m incredibly childish–unless something strikes me as interesting, I can’t focus on it or remember it worth a damn. I learn much better when I can play with something until it works, but that takes time and money that we don’t have. [/li][li]Grant writing. I didn’t get a single grant this year. Not one. Just about everyone else got at least one small grant. Luckily for me, I’m covered on my advisor’s NSF funding, but that’s really not the point. Some people seem to have a knack for grant writing, but I sure don’t. [/li][/ol]
As you might imagine, my advisor’s frustration with me is enormous. My incompetence is also making him very nervous, since I’m on his grant, and he’s relying on my work to help him get tenure.
When I started, my goal was to be successful in doing good science. Now my goal is not to fail too badly. I have yet to meet anyone’s expectations in anything besides classwork.
So, what do you say–do I keep going, or do I quit now, before I fail in some spectacular way?