My appearance is my appearance. I don’t really care what others think about it. I don’t bother worrying about how I could improve it. Life is too short.
I’ve never been happy with my appearance, not even in my earliest memories.
The thought of being comfortable with myself in that aspect is foreign to me. What’s it like, for those of you who have that?
This is pretty much how I feel, except that I’ve recently gotten a bad haircut. It’ll grow, but it’s pretty upsetting in the meantime.
I am aware that this self-image is not totally based in reality, and that it seems to be something about my family of origin. (My sister once said, when pressed by a mental health professional to name at least one thing about herself that she did not hate, that her toes were not hideous. My brother, who is a good-looking trim guy with a great smile, thinks he is ugly. I sense a theme.) Unfortunately, rational knowledge doesn’t seem to make a dent in the visceral reaction I have in front of a mirror.
Mostly I try not to think about it too much.
Somewhat unhappy. I’ve got dry hair that frizzes and bad, pale skin. My face is pretty meh, nothing awful (no bulbous nose or huge mouth or ears that stick out), but I just don’t like the whole package. I could definitely put in more effort, but it just doesn’t seem worth it.
I’m also very skinny, to the point that it starts to look unhealthy instead of attractive. I’ve got stick arms and legs and my ribs show. And my cheeks are a little hollow. I would NOT rather be overweight, but putting on 10-15 lbs. would probably be a good idea.
I look a hell of a lot better than I did 2 years ago but I still need to lose a few pounds and add some upper body muscle. The things I can’t change - my eyes and face and stuff - are fine. It’s the things I can I am not satisfied with, and since they are not yet at the state I wish them to be in, I think “unhappy” is the technically correct answer.
Two years ago my answer would have been 1. A year from now it’ll be 3 or 4.
Very happy, I think I clean up real nice.
But, of course, I live in Fantasyland.
5 years, 30 pounds and brown hair ago I thought I was too unattractive to date. I wasn’t but probably am now and I wish I had a do-over.
Quit waiting to be okay, we are just fine like we are. Dang it.
I voted ‘somewhat unhappy.’ I weigh quite a bit more than I’m comfortable with. If I lost the weight, that would move me up to somewhere between ‘neither happy nor unhappy’ and ‘somewhat happy.’ I’ve still got a couple of features that I really dislike, but overall if I were thinner I’d be okay with myself.
I love it. I will remember this when I have my giraffe days. Thank you.
Me.
Voted somewhat unhappy.
I don’t care how many times people tell me I’m beautiful, sexy or perfect, I don’t believe them. I feel like a mess and ugly. I have jawlength brown/black hair, brown eyes, medium nose, heavy brows, small lips and an ovalish face. I have struggled with weight all my life and when I was 40 lbs thinner than I am now, I believe I had a severe eating issue. Now, the issue is there but it’s not the same. I have had self esteem issues forever and no matter how much I psych myself out, it doesn’t help. I believe people are lying to me and I need to just believe I’m hideous.
It also doesn’t help that at least two boyfriends told me I needed to lose weight (one time was when I was 111 lbs). I’ve also had a couple sexual encounters that I would rather have rubbed from my memory. In addition, I’m just nuts in general.
The only things I would say I like about my body are my lips (just barely) and my eyes. To me…I’m just plain and sometimes look like a guy. 
I put somewhat unhappy. Mainly because of my weight (quite obese). I have been told by various people that I have an attractive face/eyes, and I think I can agree with that, since my only really issues with my appearance are weight-related, and I can be quite heavy before I put much weight on in my face/chin.
I have heard people say (first hand or second hand) that I would be more attractive if I lost weight. On the one hand, I want to tell those people to f*ck off, and that attractiveness is not contingent on weight, but on some days I’m my own worst critic and I probably think harsher things about myself than they would ever say.
I think I can clean up pretty well. I try to dress well for my size, and if I bother to do my hair and makeup, I admit that sometimes I can look pretty good. I’m usually more low maintenance, and don’t usually wear barely any makup, but I’m pretty good at applying it in a “natural” look to emphasize my best features.
I was happy. I’m fine with my body condition. Even though I don’t work out I’ve still retained big deltoids and lats, and a thin waist, just from my younger years as a gymnast, I think. Just at the beginning of this year though, my hair started thinning at an alarming rate. I’m 42, so it’s not completely unexpected, but still distressing.
It’s not just thinning out though, it’s also becoming grey and wiry, whereas it used to be straight, thick and glossy. If I so much as touch the hair above my forehead, a few hairs fall out. By the end of the year I’ll probably have a frontal chrome dome.
When that happens I’m going the Picard route - a clean number one all over. (This is not slash fic slang BTW)
The only thing that bothers me is being overweight, and even that doesn’t bother me too much. I just know it’s something I need to fix.
I think every other part of me looks fine. Okay, so my nose is bigger than I’d like, but who cares? And the one side of my jaw is 1/8 inch longer than the other. So what? None of it seems to matter to anyone else. It’s only my weight that seems to actually detract from anything.
Though I’ll admit I’m not looking forward to wrinkles or grey hair or balding. But that’s only because I don’t like the idea of getting older, not because I care what it looks like.
I’m not exactly sure where I fit on the chart. If this were a test, I’d go with neutral because of that.
I voted somewhat happy. My only complaints about my appearance right now are both fixable. I’d like to lose some weight, and my hair is in that horrible too-long-to-comb-properly but too-short-to-ponytail length that I can’t stand. The first just requires me to find a new workout routine, and the second will fix itself with time.
Somewhat happy. My hair is beginning to thin at a ripe old age of 29, and I finally shaved off my mohawk for the last time (I noticed that my scalp got tanned during the summer, so time for that fucker to go). I’d rather show my imperfections on my sleeve than comb them over.
Other than that I rather like myself. Never really liked the shape of my face or my chin, but I make up for it with nearly black eyes that people love. Figure is fine, thai boxing and MMA gives me a look that make people give me a wide berth in the street even though I’m short (170cm). Working on that sixpack.
“And the weirdest thing about it is
I spend so much time hating it
But it never says a bad word about me…
This is my body
And it’s fine
It’s where I spend the vast majority of my time
It’s not perfect
But it’s mine”
Kinda sums up my attitude towards my body (and the rest of the song is pretty cool, too).
Somewhat happy. At 31, I’m in good shape, look very young for my age, and am not balding or greying. I’m not in love with my chin, which is a bit small, nor my current build which could stand to be a bit thicker with muscle all around. Otherwise, I’m quite happy with myself. I would like to get my tattoos finished though. I look like a coloring book!
I voted 4. I’m happy with my body, and have been working hard at it for long enough that I feel I have a right to feel that way. I’m in better shape at 44 than I was ten years ago, and my wife’s appreciative remarks show me I’m not the only one who feels that way. It’s my face that is the problem. My nose is crooked, one eye is higher than the other, and years of insomnia have blessed me with undereye bags that will never go away (think Mario Cuomo and you’re on the right track- Mario Cuomo | DMI Blog). I will never be able to shave my head because my skull is misshapen and I don’t want to scare small children.
On the other hand, I have a full head of dark hair and no grey, so that’s fortunate.
I voted 4. I am in pretty good shape for 36. I weigh 185 and am 6’3. I am not balding or gray. Decent skin. People always think I am late 20s or 30, which is nice. I would be a 5 if I could add about 10-15 pounds of muscle to my frame. But overall I am better looking now than I was 10 years ago.