I don’t feel fat at all. The only way I know I’m fat is if I look in the mirror sideways. If there were no mirrors or weigh scales, I would think I look healthy
My pot can appear rather grotesque from the side , especially when naked, but I look perfectly built from behind.
Sure the scale tells me I’m overweight, but that is only because I’ve read charts or I’ve been told what I should weigh.
So I’m asking you if there is a difference in the way you feel about being heavy compared to the way you look ?
yes, and no. I’m way heavier than I should be (5’7", 180) and getting bigger.
I got down to 150 lb. some years ago, and I just didn’t feel any better about myself. so a lot of the weight I lost has come back because I can’t give enough of a shit to keep it off.
When playing on someone else’s Wii Fit recently, I was seriously annoyed by how close to the top of their BMI range I appeared to be–I mean, yes, I’m fat. I’m probably 50 to 75 pounds heavier than I should be, but I’m not grotesquely fat, I’m not fat enough that people look at me and think “she ought to be checking out weight loss surgery”, I’m barely fat enough for plus sized clothes.
But one of my goals for the next year is to get more active and thus more fit and flexible, and if I can make enough eating changes to take off twenty-five or more pounds, so much the better.
I’m a gay man, so I ALWAYS feel like I’m too fat , even though my BMI says I’m doing fine… I don’t believe it. I am certainly not happy with my weight, almost ever. But I see that as a good thing, as it motivates me and keeps me from becoming overweight.
Hope I’ve explained that right. If I met you somewhere and we got a chance to talk, I think I’d hope we could get together again…to go look at old cars, go drinking together, go shopping…just hang out. I’m usually not so blatently vulnerable…I’m just saying I admire what you do and who you appear to be.
"From your earlier posts, first I thought you were a Hemingway-type male. Then I thought you were a woman.
Now I find out you’re “just right.”
To me, this reads like you meant that him being gay was “just right”. I don’t mean this to say you were saying something offensive, just that it doesn’t seem to match with what you are saying here.
I chose the first option “Male, I don’t feel fat, don’t look fat, don’t weigh fat”. I’m 5’7’’ 150ish. The only time I ‘feel’ fat is if I’m wearing a shirt that’s a bit to tight or look in the mirror when I’m standing sideways. At some point in that past 7 or 8 years I developed a bit of a pot belly, but it’s pretty unnoticeable unless you catch me from the side and my shirt is too small (or I’m sitting/standing in a way that it’s pulled tight).
According to my BMI I need to lose 8lbs not to be overweight. If, like the OP I look at myself in the mirror while standing sideways, my belly is flat (well, if I’m dressed.) I don’t look or feel fat even in clothes that are pretty clingy. Lots of crunches might not get you a six-pack if you’re not underweight, but they sure as hell can get rid of a flabby belly - within a year of daily crunches I went from a 31" waist to 28" and have maintained that for more than five years.
, even though my BMI says I’m doing fine… I don’t believe it. I am certainly not happy with my weight, almost ever. But I see that as a good thing, as it motivates me and keeps me from becoming overweight.
