If some random person walked up to me on the street and said that my mom was a murderer, I would run through the following list of posibilities:
- This person is crazy.
- This person is a prankster.
- This person might be truthful.
If they seem out-of-it or young and stupid, I’ll probably not think much about it. It’s an odd accusation to make to a person’s son, randomly, in the middle of the street. If you think that someone has murdered 35 people, you would report it to the police. There should be 35 people missing and, potentially, 35 bodies to find.
Certainly, if that person did go to the police, the police would consider it a viable mystery, despite having no evidence on which to go except this one person’s word. I would suggest that nearly all police investigations start on the basis of a single person’s word and are considered legitimate mysteries right up to the point where the evidence starts to lean towards the reporter being a liar. The default assumption is truth.
But that tangent aside, if a stable, financially secure, middle-aged person went on TV and made an accusation against my mother, then I would want to have a better understanding of what’s going on. I wouldn’t dismiss it out of hand. There’s nothing to prevent someone close to you from being a secret serial killer, and I have no desire to protect someone who has murdered people, regardless of their relationship to me. And certainly something is going on. An extreme statement has been made, and that’s a strange to do. We don’t have to assume that the accusation is true to classify the state of affairs a mystery. Even if an obviously crazy person came up to me on the street and accused my mother of being a murderer, I’d still consider that a bit of a mystery because that’s a strange and specific accusation to make. What in that crazy person’s history brought them to use that as their default accusation? Maybe they’re admitting to something they have done in their past. Who knows. It’s a mystery.
But now if some random woman tells me, out of the blue, that she’s been raped, personally I’m liable to believe her. Again, we might include the “crazy or prankster” potentials. We’re not going straight from believing that this person is probably telling the truth to going out and arresting someone. But short of that person seeming like they’re tripping on acid, I’d give a greater than even odds that they were saying it because it was true.
Serial murder by some random housewife, operating secretly, and without showing any signs of mental illness, is a fairly unlikely occurrence. The odds that someone is just saying something silly is the far more likely potential, up to the point where they go to the police or go in front of Congress.
A 20 year old frat boy doing something awful while drunk? I see no strong reason to discount the likelihood out of hand. Again, I’m not going to pick him up and arrest him. It’s entirely possible that the person who is telling me that this guy raped her suffered a case of mistaken identity, misunderstood his intentions, etc. But I’m not going to absolve the guy of all potential to have committed the crime. It’s fully within the realm of reason and likelihood.
And what reason would I have to discount the woman’s statement, when she’s saying something that falls within the realm of possibility, who is not young, not crazy, etc.? Why would I go beyond accepting that it’s a question to which I’ll never know an answer to outright denying the possibility that it could have ever happened?
Why would I believe that her and all of the other millions of women in the country are all liars by default, minus evidence to the contrary? That would be insane. Assuming someone to be lying, when they’re saying something completely reasonable and probable, just because you have no evidence is stupid.
If someone tells me that they went to Vegas as a kid, once, but doesn’t have any photos of it, why would I assume that they’re lying? It’s something within the realm of reason, and while I can’t be certain it’s true, it would just be insane to treat that person as a liar.
If someone tells me that they went to the Moon and built a sand castle as a kid, then we’re getting into the territory where we doubt by default.
This is all down to probabilities. What are the relative odds that the event happened and that someone would lie, given what we know about them and that sort of event?
But saying that the odds are 51% that Brett Kavanaugh assaulted a woman while drunk, once, 35 years ago doesn’t mean that we arrest him. But it also doesn’t mean that we tell Christine Ford to stop telling stories.