I’m really just curious – I have dated quite a few women who wanted larger breasts. A couple of them merely mentioned it, but did nothing. My ex ended up getting implants (bad idea) and my current girlfriend is taking a product called Grobust - this seems to be working very well, with no side-effects at all.
How many women out there are happy/unhappy with their breasts?
(I’m not trying to be a sicko, just curious as this seems to be something of a trend)
“Minds are like parachutes; they work best when open.”
All of the women in my family are cursed with large breasts. Trust me, I wish I had small ones and I’ve never understood women who have gotten implants. I have to carry around a lot more weight which causes my back to ache. Most bras don’t support them - forget about the pretty Victoria’s Secret lace things, I wear the equivalent of a life jacket. I appear heavier than I really am. I look stupid in button down and sleeveless shirts. A lot of boyfriends have admired them, of course, but then I wondered if they liked me for my breasts or what.
The worst thing about them is sometimes when I walk down the street and a man just gawks at them. I feel REALLY uncomfortable. Apparently some women like that sort of attention, but I squirm.
I should interject that I am not the person to suggest larger breasts to any of my girlfriends - current or ex. Also, most of the women I have talked to about this never have desired HUGE breasts, just a little more full than what they currently had (which was usually a B cup or so).
“Minds are like parachutes; they work best when open.”
The exceptions of course not-withstanding, there is a perverse element of our societal hang-ups that causes many women to be unsatisfied with their physical appearance regardless of what that is. Many woman always wants larger or smaller breast; most a- and b- cuped women I known have wanted larger; nearly all D- and DD-'s that i have known have wanted smaller. Its the same with hair (curly haired women straigten their hair while straight haired women get a perm, etc. etc.) The message given to women is not that larger or smaller or curly or straight is better or worse; it’s that whatever YOU’VE got is bad, the exact opposite is good. The fact is that there is an large variance in physical attributes in the world, and none is in-and-of-itself any more or less attractive vis-a-vis other attributes. It’s all, as they say, in what you do with it that counts.
Jason R Remy
“No amount of legislation can solve America’s problems.”
– Jimmy Carter (1980)
As a breast owner I would never ever ever get an enlargement and have known several women who had their breasts reduced because of medical reasons.None of my big chested friends would ever wish their hooters on anyone because of the pain, humiliation and clothing restrictions. Anyone who gets implants must have a poor self image.
I love breast in all sizes. That said, a friend of mine had a boob job because she possessed nothing but a pair of wonderful nipples. For her it was largely a clothes thing and somewhat a business decision. She’s very happy with her new breasts.
Is buying clothes really a problem? Do flat-chested women really face discrimination?
I have a solution to the large-breasted women who feel that they look heavier. Wear tight shirts. If you wear loose shirts, the shirt will hang far away from the body, giving you the pregnant look. If you wear tight shirts, the bottom will hug your stomach, showing that you’re not fat.
And ShirleyU, what are you talking about? I’ve never heard of anyone being humiliated for having big breasts. I’ve seen and heard many small-breasted women get laughed at, but never big-breasted ones. And what clothing restrictions? If anything, small-breasted women would feel bad about wearing anything that would show cleavage, or lack thereof, which accounts for a lot of dresses, gowns, tanks, shirts, bras, tops, and bathing suits.
There was a commercial on TV advertising breast augmentation. The woman in it mentioned that she had it done and felt better about herself. My mom (who is big breasted) asked why in the world women would feel low because they have small breasts and I told her that it was because people make fun of them.
That’s what I went through when I was younger…all my friends had a bigger chest than I did and they got attention. If anyone mentioned my chest (I was small chested then) they’d make a derogatory (sp?) remark.
Now my chest is bigger (dunno what happened…mother nature must have looked at me and said “Whoops! Forgot something!” and took care of that) and I don’t go through that anymore.
So I can relate to wanting a bigger chest, only because of the fact that people made fun of me.
MaryAnn
Sometimes life is so great you just gotta muss up your hair and quack like a duck!
As a woman with big breasts (oh god, I hate to even type that. Cheese Head and all the other jerks are gonna send me email come-ons) I can tell you a bit about the humiliation. It started when I was in high school.
Pete, your suggestion about wearing tight t-shirts so we don’t get the “maternity” look doing was good advice, you nailed the problem exactly. But what you didn’t nail was the fact that having large breasts and wearing a tight t-shirt to go with it can easily get you classified as a “slut” or a “party girl”. (Insert whatever tired old phrase you want for a girl who’s looking to get laid.)
Now I have enough self-confidence to wear the fitted clothes and handle any comments that come my way. But when I was but a young girl, and grown men would comment on and even grab at my chest it was more than I knew how to handle.
Also, buying bras is a JOKE. Most of the best bras are B or C cups. There are a few more D’s than there used to be. DD’s are still scarce on the racks, and anything bigger than that you’re in trouble. You have to find a specialty store. And yes, once you get up to that size, you’re not wearing a sexy piece of lingerie, you’re wearing a life preserver.
Finally, they hurt. The shoulder and back aches I get from carrying these things around is a bummer.
Whoa, this is coming out too whiny. I’ve actually come to terms with my breasts, and now I think they’re great. It helps to have a husband who thinks big breasts are fabulous and never hesitates to tell me how wonderful they are. But it’s not a constant thrill. I remember walking in to a Frederick’s of Hollywood store and telling them I couldn’t find bras that fit because I was so large chested. The woman both looked at me as though I were the world’s biggest braggart and said in voices dripping with sarcasm “Oh, we feel SO sorry for you.”
Truth is, whatever a woman’s breast size, at some time in her life, some jerk of a man is gonna give her some grief over it.
Between the guys that hoot because a woman is modestly endowed and the men that leer or get grabby because a woman has big breasts, no female is left out of that big “get embarrassed and humiliated” barndance.
As far as small breasted women feeling “bad about wearing anything that shows cleavage,” it tends to be exactly the opposite. Large breasts need serious support, and it’s difficult to wear something low cut without showing that industrial strength bra at the same time. A small busted woman can wear anything – and even go braless – and she looks fine.
Plus, there’s always some fool that equates cleavage with sluttiness.
Don’t get me wrong - I love men, in all their infinite variety. Some of my best friends are men. I’d let my sister marry one, even!
your humble TubaDiva
Ever played “telephone?”
PS Mini rant here: Go looking in a lingerie shop some time; all the really pretty bras are in tiny sizes. Lots of choices, too, styles, colors. And tiny panties to match; it’s only been in recent times that non-junior size women have been able to find nice underwear like their smaller sisters. Wanna know Victoria’s Secret? They won’t sell a bra bigger than 36D.
yeah, I get similar reactions when I complain to store clerks that I can’t find underwear…and it sucks having to wear pants or really long shorts all the time.
sorry, it’s late at night. When I get tired, I get silly.
handy signs, anything more than a handful is a waste.
NOTE: When dating a woman, guys say her breasts are fine, then when split up, guys say they were too small.
Just wanted to respond to Jayron: I don’t have low self image - it was just an answer to the question. It’s sort of like if you have a goiter on your neck - it would be cumbersome and annoying. There’s something you could do about it (removal or reduction) but it’s costly and excessive. Okay, so maybe a goiter’s not the right example but you get the idea. Also, I think breast happiness has a lot to with the current trends. When small waif bodies were in style, large breasted women were hopelessly out of fashion - I remember holding a shirt labeled “Large” up to my chest and laughing.
Of course a lot of people hate what they’ve got and you’re right in saying that one’s got to work it, but IMO that’s not really the issue here. The point I was trying to illustrate was that women seeking breast enlargement need to understand the responsibilities and trade offs that come with larger breasts (see my previous post (or Leslie’s because it basically says the same thing)).
Pete - good suggestion that I practice. But sometimes the shirt rides up (gotta keep pulling it down, adjusting it) and it REALLY accentuates the breasts. Feel kind of slutty.
Not me. 34A and completely content. Now, if you had asked me this in high school when I was getting called “Pirates Dream” etc etc, I probably would’ve taken you up on it but now, never. I don’t have to wear something industrial-sized when I run or play softball, I can wear a bikini without worrying about if I’m going to fall out, and it’s amazing what a nice underwire or demi-bra will do to provide a little “umph”. Oh, plus all those tight little tank tops that everyone is wearing this summer? I don’t have to wear a bra with them. Ah, freedom.
Hey Tuba, my sister-in-law is a DD and she’s been able to find bras at Victorias Secret in the very recent past. I guess they just started stocking them but the saleslady will probably have to help you find them. Check 'em out again.
my personal humiliation started in jr. high…getting groped on the bus etc…boys’s moms thinking I was sexual just because I was developed. I was a 36C in 8th grade.(god! what I wouldnt give to have that body at 30!)
anyway…in my family, pregnancy = breast increases.
after baby #2, I stand at not a,b,c,d,dd,ddd,e,f,or g but a charming H cup.Yes, they do come that big. I feel like a freak, but WTF, none of you know me, so no reason to be embarrassed. Buying a bra is a nightmare, IF I can find one that fits, my bigger boob–we all have one-- pops out the top of the cup.I have permanent dents in my shoulders from the straps.AND the best part is the hump I am develloping from carrying them around. My fantasy is breast reduction…I see myself with perky b/c size boobs, strolling braless wearing flattering clothes…to any man who thinks titties this big would be sexy, picture your nuts the size of bowling balls…and then picture driving a car, riding a bike, just walking is hard.
Now…before I am accused of whining…let me tell ya, all my exes LOVED them,(although I personally find them too big to be sexy)and there are certain things you can doo when they are big enough.:0
Hey Kelli, if you’ve got insurance, you may be able to get them to pay for a reduction. Check with your doctor. The longer you have them,the more likely you are to have back problems etc (which you already know!)
My wife is very big breasted too. And she’s only 5 feet tall! Occasionally I’ll walk up behind her (I’m 6’3") and lift her breasts up. She always lets out a great sigh of relief, and says she wishes I would follow her around all day like that! They are heavy! I’ve suggested a reduction, but for now she kind of likes them (I know I do!). She’s also worried about the anchor scar, and general mutilation. Having them reduced is definitely not as invisible as having them reduced. You have a scar that runs from the bottom of your nipple to the bottom of your breast. Possibly even one around your nipple. Ick.
