Of course I don’t but I don’t think it’s at all unreasonable to assume that the majority of pre-nuptual agreements are imposed by the person with the property they want to reserve. If you can demonstrate the contrary, I’ll be delighted to stand corrected.
Like others have noted, A pre-nup allows you to decide some important issues while you are rational and on good terms with one another. This can be pretty important depending on what you plan for yourselves in the future. It isn’t about a lack of trust to us; it is about coming to an agreement without negative emotions invovled. I’ll illustrate with two examples that Nashiitashii and I are dealing with. We also want to put in an “infidelity clause” that leaves a cheating spouse with nothing but their separate property, since we both find the idea and practice loathsome.
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We plan to build a home together, probably on some significant (to us) acreage (5-10), and construct it in a rather unique and eco-friendly way. We’ve decided that in the event of a divorce, the home will be sold and the money split rather than try and hash it out in court. We also thought that we could allow wiggle room for this by allowing one partner to buy out the others option in the home. They would assume the mortgage solely, and provide a fair share of money to the one who has to leave.
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As she noted earlier, I’m a sculptor. There is a chance that I might start selling work seriously someday and I had reservations about the rights to pieces produced during the marriage. Sometimes pieces are produced in limited edition runs, or used in a manner that pays royalties. We agreed that I would retain sole rights to all my artwork, it’s uses and proceeds immediately effective upon signing the divorce papers.
I wouldn’t sign a pre-nup, nor would I ask a potential husband to sign one. If you can look down the road to when you’d divorce me, or when you’d act so dishonorably and selfishly that I would divorce you, then we’re not ready to get married. For me, marriage is forever, it’s a 100% commitment, no “insurance” or hedging of bets allowed.
I am absolutely not comfortable with it and would end the relationship if it were a dealbreaker.
That said, I would not descend into shrieky hysterics if it were pitched to me but calmly lay out my objections to it and if he weren’t willing to consider my arguments then I’d take the hit and end the relationship because it’s simply not worth it for me to go into a relationship where there is a your/mine attitude towards money made during the tenure of the marriage.
I am, however, perfectly comfortable with someone putting their substantial pre-marital assets into a trust.
FWIW, I am attorney, financially comfortable (I now make 6 figures and support myself), am planning to change to a profession where my salary has an 80% chance of increasing exponentially compared to what I make now and I stand to inherit a significant estate from my parents. More to the point, my boyfriend betrayed my feelings and our relationship during this relationship but I stayed and worked it out (he didn’t cheat on me physically but he had MAJOR issues he was covering up related to his upbringing that probably affected some of his behaviour) so he has ample evidence that I’m neither the "fck you, I’m leaving" type or that I am a vindictive btch. The whole “well, no one knows what it’s like when one person betrays the other” argument really doesn’t hold much water with me because I was betrayed, and I didn’t act crazypsychodrama about it even though I was plenty angry and hurt.
It would suck to give up the relationship but I just can’t marry that type of person-it’s not how I was raised and it doesn’t reflect my attitudes towards marriage.
Sham-Wow? 
Yeah, I’m leaving lawyering to go into finance. Even with the readjusted salaries, the chances that I make a better living than curently (which is a) really good and b) alarmingly stable) are pretty damn high.
Oh yeah, have I mentioned I’m sticking it through his unemployment? I think I’d just laugh if he tried to act like it was about me scamming on his money at this point.
We’re both financially comfortable and come from exactly the same socio-economic background and stand to inherit about the same from our parents. Our siblings are even in the same profession for crying out loud! I’d just find a pre-nup request to reek of drama on his part.