As some of you may have read in my other thread, TonyF and I have recently gotten engaged after a fantastic 7 years together.
My Maid of Honor who is my best friend decided to take it upon herself to kidnap me and get me to try on some wedding dresses last Sunday. She has been calling me nonstop about our budget and ideas for party favors, flowers we’re getting, etc.
The boy and I are pretty laid back and we just want to have a smallish wedding that doesn’t have many frills because it’s a celebration of our union with family and friends, not just an excuse to feed and booze them up on our dime.
We wanted to get an idea of how much our Dopers paid for their weddings and receptions so we can throw out some numbers and ideas to appease the MoH. We were thinking $10,000 total, but seeing as though we have 110 people on the guest list due to large familyage, it’s kinda hard to cut down on things since it’s the food that will cost the most.
These are things that are important to us:
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good photographer
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good food
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good cake
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good DJ
Of course, these are the most expensive things in a wedding.
TonyF’s sister will be doing the invitations and my brother will cover the cake as wedding presents to us.
Another thing we were wondering about: we were also thinking of having the MoH and his Best Man tell everyone (since I read that we shouldn’t put it on the invitations) that we’ve been living together for 3 years and we don’t really want or need for anything. Basically if our guests would like to give us anything, cold hard cash is fine. It was that way for some of our Asian friends who got married. My Asian family and our Asian friends think the money in the envelope is standard, but would that be weird for anyone else?
Gah, I hate thinking that we’re being tacky but we haven’t been to many weddings and are new to this whole planning thing. What say you, Dopers?