I just thought her age made it even worse, especially with trying to pick up boys young enough to be her own sons. Her age was not necessary, her behavior was bad enough without mentioning that, I just thought it made the whole thing even more pathetic.
And, like Kimstu said, our parties are not that cool or sophisticated. Occasionally we’ll have a barbecue or something, but usually it’s just 1) Hang out on front porch 2) Drink as much beer as possible and 3) Put on some good sing-along music, like the Pogues, and see who is still sober enough to get all the lyrics right. They’re not exactly fantastic parties that everyone in the city is dying to get into. My friend’s porch is not Studio 54, if you think we’re really that cool, well, yeah…
I think the age is relevant to the story. I think that its bad enough to act like a knucklehead at 22, which I did plenty of at the age of 22, but it is really sad to be making the same mistakes and acting like the same knucklehead at the age of 42. One hopes that by this point in life, you’ve learned a few lessons on what is and isn’t inappropriate.
Well, I was gonna stop short of calling the OP a bitch, but catty does spring to mind. The gist of her anger seems to be dominated by this woman’s looks and how she interacted with all the “boys” at the party. It seems to me that if someone makes an ass of themself (whoever they are or however old they might be) eys are rolled, people laugh about it and that person is pretty much dismissed as a baffoon. Could it be there was some jealousy involved? I know, I know, she was fat and leathery and not dressed to the OP’s standards. Sounds like highschool bathroom talk to me.
I would say, yeah. Simply to the extent that a sensible, mature person would know that if you really don’t look as good in skimpy/revealing clothing as you used to, it’s probably time to modify your dress style a little bit.
And a sensible, mature person would know that if she’s over 40 and overweight with problem skin, she is really not going to look as good in a tight miniskirt as she used to. Especially if she leaves off the underwear.
Mind you, I say this as a fellow over-40 single woman who could also stand to lose a few pounds, so it’s not that I don’t sympathize with this predicament. But the bottom line is: if we older women go around in very daring youthful outfits that just don’t seem becoming on us, we should not expect the young folks to give us a pass on our lousy dress sense just because we used to look a lot fresher and cuter.
“Including you coming here to continue it”? You’re calling the OP a bitch partly because she started a rant thread in an anonymous online rant forum about a person that none of us can identify and who is extremely unlikely ever to know that anybody here was talking about her?
Dude, that’s setting the bar for bitchhood pretty low, isn’t it? I mean, by that logic you could argue that pretty much everyone who opens a Pit thread is a bitch.
Yeah, I think it would have been nicer if the OP and her friends had managed to refrain at the party from insulting or criticizing this uncongenial ass to her face. The most polite and hospitable thing to do would have been just to overlook her bad behavior as much as possible and avoid her as much as possible. If she was really unmanageable, the host could have suggested to the guest who invited her that maybe it was time for him to see her home.
But remember, they’re young and they haven’t finished growing into their perfect manners yet. And you can’t say that the uncongenial ass didn’t give them a whole lot of provocation to rudeness. Even mature and sensible 40-somethings might have been hard put to it to keep from being rude to this boorish person.
The host/ess of the party could have asked the 40-year old woman to leave at any point, or asked her friend (part of the cohort) to take her home. That didn’t happen, based on what the OP has told us, until pretty late in the proceedings, did it? In the meantime, the children engaged in eye-rolling, snide remarks, and laughter at the woman’s expense. Was she drunk and, based on the OP’s version of events, behaving badly? Yes. What does the Op want from posting here? Affirmation that acting cuntishly towards (based on the description we were given) a fat, old, drunk is the right thing to do?
Sorry. I’m pretty much of an asshole myself, both IRL and here. I don’t like most people. I most likely wouldn’t like the cougar described in the OP. She’s a sad, pathetic drunk. But you know what? The OP is still catty, cuntish, bitch. Those two things are not mutually exclusive.
Well, damn. If it’s not ok to rant about a fat, trashy, drunken old leathery slutbag acting like a fool, flashing her “taco” and calling the host a “fat bitch,” then… I guess we may as well close up The Pit. It’s been a real honor working with you all.
Because we tend to cut more slack for immature behavior from people who are actually immature. A twenty year old acting like that would still have been annoying, but hey, they’re still young, there’s plenty of time for them to learn how to behave in public. If you’re forty and you haven’t figured it out yet, then there is something wrong with you.
It seems pretty clear from the OP that yes, it did. Most people do not have terribly attractive bodies. God knows, I sure don’t. Which is why you don’t see me parading around in public wearing just speedos and a muscle T. Because nobody wants to see that shit. Now, I certainly can get dressed up and look damned fine, if I do say so myself, but that involves an entirely different style of dress than what an eighteen year old twink with a hard body could get away with. And so, because I have a minimal amount of self-awareness and respect for other people, I don’t go out in public in just a thong. This is, obviously, a lesson the woman in the OP has not yet learned.
Okay, in fairness, learning to wear a thong in public would be an improvement for this woman, but I think my general drift is clear, here.
Did you just really suggest that ranting about people in real life in the pit makes one a cunt? Because that’s really incredibly fucking stupid. Go hang out in MPSIMS, if that sort of thing gives you the vapors, because it’s part and parcel of the entire purpose of this forum.
Something about the OP struck pretty close to home with you, didn’t it? Maybe made you rethink your Friday night plans some?
People go to parties to have fun, not give etiquette lessons, or even civilized-behavior lessons, to others.
Question: If it had been a party of 40-somethings, and the one 20-something had been behaving in such a manner, would the 40-something posting a rant be called a “bitch”?
Good question. I think the majority of 40-somethings (at least the ones I know) would have forgotten about it by the next day. Sure, the ones that felt threatened by the experience might go on about the “the tarted up little jail bait who was throwing her prepubescent, goth clad ass at all the men” . I would have found that just as lame.
Maybe this has less to do with age and more to do with the fact that (some) women will be catty, no matter what the circumstance. That was my only objection to the OP. Not that she was ragging on someone who acted like a dumbass, but that she took it past the level of remarking on someone’s behavior and made it into an appearance / age thing which is really not a very good reflection on her and her friends. Of course it’s her rant about* her * experience, but something about the way it was expressed just made me lose focus on the baffoonery of the woman’s actions and concentrate more on her own social shortcomings.
I’m a 40 year old woman, and I would have been more harsh on the lizard-skinned skank in the OP than the OP was. Hell yes, she should be behaving a lot better at her age (the skank, not the OP). You’re supposed to learn from your mistakes and get better at being a human being as you get older, not worse. And yes, it is pathetic for someone her age to be acting so desperate. I see plenty of older people, and they look just fine to me, except when they are frantically trying to be something they obviously aren’t (i.e. young).
From my midpoint perspective as a thirty something, I’m gonna disagree with you. If somebody’s guest made a drunken ass of themselves generally showing more than anyone wants to see, we’d have said something then and made crude off color jokes about it for weeks.
If you act like this as a 20 something, you are an idiot who hopefully will grow out of it like most twenty somethings do. If you are 40 something and acting like this, its pathetic because it means that you haven’t learned anything.
Last Halloween, I was out getting my lunch and a woman who was 45ish (and looked like she’d lived every day of it hard) came into the sandwich shop (in Boston’s Financial District, just for the sake of context… she’d clearly worn this to work) dressed in a Catholic School uniform. Very short plaid skirt, knee socks, Mary Janes and pigtails.
When she noticed people staring at her and snickering, she giggled and said “It’s a costume! I’m…”
and was interrupted by the woman next to me, who said “…dressed as lamb. Yes dear, we all get it.”
Now, was that catty? Damn straight. But guess which one of those women I’d choose to be when I grow up. There’s nothing sadder than a person who’s still trying to act 20 at 40. Dignity is a good thing. And kind of hot. Embrace it.
I keep wanting to tell the story of how I went to Piggly Wiggly dressed as an elf. I’ve tried, but I just can’t tell it funny. Suffice to say, though, that what could have been a mortifying incident, was not, because I owned my elfhood.
In that context, yes. Honestly, a middle-aged woman in that outfit is undignified in any context. And it’s not like she was going for irony, she clearly thought she was smokin’ hot in her inappropriate-for-work-no-matter-what-day-it-is outfit.
If she just wanted to wear a Halloween costume, she’d have gone as an elf.
And you can’t say that the uncongenial ass didn’t give them a whole lot of provocation to rudeness. Even mature and sensible 40-somethings might have been hard put to it to keep from being rude to this boorish person.