Yes…
Pretty sure it’s been over a month since the last time I did.
I’m with the consensus. I will dissent on the time sensitive one though. I feel it’s a little rude to not text back when you need feed back by a certain time.
That’s not a hill I’m willing to die on though. I probably just keep that frustration to myself
Not to make this worse for you, but also it’s possible they could see your message on their lock screen (or in notifications) and then still decide to not reply and the read receipt wouldn’t be any the wiser.
It’s been over a day since the OP asked for comment, Why hadn’t he checked in and promptly replied to everyone?
My phone is always within hearing distance except when I go to bed. My crowd is not into texting so I get few personal texts and reply promptly. Everyone in the world is constantly on their phone. What are they doing??? Surely if your phone dings next to your ear you can look at the text and reply in a timely manner. What are texts for if not for an immediate response? People say they don’t answer their phones or read emails. I guess nobody wants to be bothered.
If I’m at work talking to a customer I’m not answering a text.
If I’m out to dinner enjoying myself with my husband, I’m not answering texts.
If I’m in bed reading a book, I’m not answering texts.
If you need something urgently, call me. If I don’t answer then leave me a message outline the issue, and I will find time to get you a response.
If it’s ULTRA urgent you can contact me in all 3 ways, and then I’ll definitely see it and do whatever it is.
I didn’t realize that when I got an iPhone it meant that anyone with my phone number could demand my attention RIGHT NOW!
Just because you have my phone number doesn’t mean I have to jump when you decide to send me a text.
If a straight reading of this is intended, then, well, that’s exactly what texts are NOT for, for me. They are generally not for immediate response. If someone texts me, I don’t expect a response necessarily that day even, just whenever is convenient, unless it’s obviously a time-crunchy type of thing we’re doing like setting up an evening get-together or trying to find each other at a meeting point.
But, no, texts, to me, are supposed to generally be unobtrusive and not expectant of an immediate response. For example, when my brother texts me, I just think “oh, he’s got something to share or a question that doesn’t require immediate attention.” If I see my phone ring with my brother’s phone number on it, I think, shit, this must be important. Either my brother needs some info right now, or somebody’s dead or injured or something. Not every contact is like that, but, for the most part, my friends will text casual bulshitty type of stuff, and call if there’s anything that requires immediate attention.
In terms of the OP, usually texts pop up on my computer, so I see them throughout the day as I work or screw around. If my phone is in my hands, I’ll usually check the message, but much of the time, my phone is not, so I’ll check it, I dunno, when I need my phone. It may go over a day, at times, when I simply do not see any messages.
Not true.
Even if the phone’s on you, turned on, and not set on silent: there are lots of possible reasons why one might keep one’s attention on something else.
Why do you think that you’re entitled to everyone’s instant attention at any moment?
I view phone calls as needing an immediate response since you need to actively communicate in real time. Texts are more passive; you send it and it sits there until responded to and the conversation happens over minutes or hours or days.
I get home and put my phone up in the kitchen to plug in later and then largely ignore it for the night. 95% of my phone communication is with people inside my household anyway. Maybe I’ll glance at it a couple times as I pass by to see if anything’s up or if I’m expecting a message but it’s mostly just downtime.
Exactly. You are not, and that is an irrational demand of others.
The one time I had to clarify to a friend of mine about texts, it was a physician friend. He would dutifully answer texts, and I would answer his reasonably quickly, as he usually texted me in the morning when I wasn’t involved in other things. One day, I texted him something, and I didn’t hear back until three days later. He came back all apologetic about missing the message, that his kid was playing with the phone and clicked off the notification (which happens to me all the time.) And I’m like – let me look up my actual words – “There is no expectation of immediate reply. I know you’re also like, um, a doctor and stuff.” But even without the reasonable explanation, what if he just didn’t text me back because he just didn’t feel like it? What’s wrong with that? That’s reasonable.
As an aside, did you make a custom avatar that looks like the standard generic one, or was it a wonderful coincidence that “peed in” got assigned urine yellow?
As much as your call with your mother is important to you, your friend’s dinner with her friends was important to her. You sound like the world revolves around you and your needs.
And I’ll echo that your friend is normal. I keep my phone with me when I’m at work and away from the house. But when I’m home it goes on the charger in my closet and and is on silent. I check it before I go to bed.
@peedin needs to hydrate more.
Yes. I have nothing more important to do than answer texts and color code avatars.
So a hostile non-answer to an honest question.
Maybe there is is a reason people aren’t responding to your texts…
Not hostile, sarcastic. And I’m not the one saying people don’t respond to my texts.
Glad to come across this thread and realize I’m not an outlier.
I don’t have notifications turned on, I wait for a good time to respond to everyone like when travelling on the subway. And I don’t always have my phone with me (e.g. when jogging, I prefer to have an mp3 player and not the bulk of a phone. And, well, while swimming obviously).
I don’t expect people to respond to my messages immediately either.
You may only text when you have something important, but that doesn’t mean your recipients only RECEIVE important or urgent texts. I have a five year running daily commentary thread with my two best friends. We’re not able to get together in person due to location, but we keep up with our day to day affairs via group text. So if I hear ping ping ping ping, I assume there’s a yarn sale or Nancy’s co-worker has put fish in the microwave again (pre-covid).
If some date or time is really important to me, I’d say “I’m going to be on a call with my mother from 7-8 that night. If that’s the only time you can come, please let me know asap so I can coordinate a different time with my mother and brothers.”