In the past I have called the police when I heard the sounds of domestic abuse from the condo next door. I don’t care who is hitting whom - if I hear something like that (and you know abuse when you hear it), I call the police, and that is what you should do. Men are victims of domestic abuse far more often than we realize, and they deserve to live without abuse in their lives just as women do.
The people who got banned here didn’t get banned because they wanted to be fair to men. They were banned because they were jerks.
Usually anyone who mentions discrimination against men and/or DV against men is first subject to a series of very personal attack by self appointed Thought Police.
If he/she replies in kind then he/she is banned.
Or the offender guilty of empathy toward men may have to self-ban or self-suspend.
In reality heavily censored forums like Twitter are losing rank, while almost unmoderated forums like Reddit are gaining rank.
Don’t hijack this thread with a debate about this board. You can certainly discuss domestic violence towards men (which yes, is bad), if you choose, but keep it relevant to the topic at hand.
I apologize.
Let me get this straight. You saw nothing, you didn’t even see or hear the boyfriend specifically, you heard something that you determined was a slap, though you clearly didn’t see who or what was slapped, she was"perfectly made up" so you determined she was the one doing the slapping, she said she was ok (?), And from all of this you have decided that she was the perpetrator of domestic violence, and the unseen boyfriend was the victim?
The sound of a slap is mistakable so MYOB. If you ever see or hear real evidence of violence then call the police.
I wouldn’t rule out that a dog was distressing her, so she slapped it. Call the SPCA.
She was being bitten by a mosquito, and she slapped it?
They were high fiving each other. The “sounds of distress” were actually sounds of jubilation.
If you genuinely believe what you heard happened you should call your local domestic abuse hotline who will deal with it in a sensitive and confidential manner. I think you are in Scotland yes? In which case that would be sdmafmh.gov.uk. They have a phone number and an email address.
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Sorry, that should be sdafmh.gov.uk
No, no, you’re doing it wrong.
You’re supposed to describe the situation without identifying the gender of either party, so we assume that the man slapped the woman and recommend contacting the police. You then say “ah-HA!” and reveal the big twist.
Having tricked us into admitting that domestic violence by women against men is a thing that exists, you chortle triumphantly as we all blush and run out of the room.
Yes, this. If they were being very loud you could call it in as just that, causing a disturbance and then let the police sort it out.
With the caveat that not all police forces are trustworthy, I’d recommend this. If your police tend to treat people with fairness and tend to prioritize peaceable resolutions to calls, call 'em. I think your evidence is super flimsy, but call 'em anyway, let them figure it out.
Since the noise stopped that’s a pretty nasty approach to the problem. It wastes public resources and exposes people to unnecessary government intervention in their lives. I had a neighbor once that saw criminals hiding behind every tree, I’m sure the police responded more slowly each time she called. She thought our house was being burglarized once, at least her motive was innocent this time, we had arrived home from vacation early to find smoke coming out of the furnace, it was dark out and she saw someone going back and forth from a van to our house, but it was the repairman. I explained to the officer who arrived what happened, then he said “OK, now I have to explain this to her” with a roll of his eyes because he’d had to deal with her before. Luckily police can’t ignore wolf crying once it’s called in (hopefully), but I bet they don’t try to break a land speed record to follow up on the report.
Believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see.
I personally think you are making quite a leap in your assumptions and would get laughed out of court as a witness.
Perhaps one of them was about to put their hand on a hot stove and got slapped?
I generally won’t get involved with an inter-couple dispute, from what I’ve experienced plus heard and read from people dealing with it, the victim will typically defend the attacker. I’d call the police if I heard or saw enough to conclude their was fighting going on, but ‘a slap’ can be way too many innocuous things for me to want to do anything with that. I definitely wouldn’t go up and start asking someone if they’re OK, I have no desire to be part of a triangulation scheme. This is regardless of the genders of anyone involved, or any weird belief that a slap will instantly remove someone’s makeup.
My bad on this, I went back and reread the OP and it appears there really wasn’t a disturbance going on. I think if the OP had reason to believe someone was being harmed then by all means the police should be called, but it sounds like his involvement was after the fact, not while the fighting/arguing was going on so I don’t know that there’s much the cops could or would do.