Yesterday, I heard one of my neighbours sounding distressed. Then there was the sound of slapping. She has a boyfriend with whom I am not acquainted. By the time I got to my door she had raced upstairs and slammed her door closed. I knocked on the door (we have a buzzer entry system to the block so she knew it was a neighbour) and when she came to the door I asked if she was alright. She was perfectly made up, so it was obvious that it was she, not the boyfriend, who had done the slapping.
Now, I don’t condone violence by anyone; I have, however, previously stepped in to prevent violence from occurring. So how do I handle this?
People sometimes slap each other. It is not the definition of domestic violence. He might have done something to deserve it. They might have been getting kinky. Minus further evidence, all you can do is hope to become friends with the boyfriend one day and offer to talk. But, by that point, if there isn’t further evidence, then you would probably be wasting your time.
Unless you’re willing to pry and ask details, it seems you have not enough to go on. If it were reversed would you have taken the boyfriends word and walked away? But you did here, so unless you’re going back to ask to see he’s okay, or get more info, you have nothing substantial to go on, in my opinion.
…I suspect your definition of “obvious” is different from everyone elses. You “heard” what you suspect was a slap. You are assuming that “being perfectly made up” negates the possibility that if there was a slap of some sort that she was not the victim.
If you are so supremely confident of what happened outside your door then call the police already. Domestic violence is not acceptable no matter who the perpetrator is. And if everything is as “obvious” as you claim it is then the police won’t have any problems sorting it out.
I find it convenient that an outspoken champion of unfairness towards men happened to “witness” an obvious example of physical abuse perpetrated upon a man by a woman and brought it to our attention.
I’m confused about your details. Where was the couple when the alleged incident occurred? Were they in the public area of the building? Because you said she ran upstairs (INTO her apartment?) and slammed the door after the incident.
Are you sure it was an altercation and not someone venting their frustration with an inaminate object? The other day I was trying to retract the jammed handle of a rolling suitcase and anyone overhearing me might have heard noises that sounded like I was in distress ( including obscenities) followed by the sound of something being hit. Usually if there’s an altercation I will hear at least two voices.
I don’t understand the conclusion that the man was the one who was slapped. What is the relevance of the woman wearing makeup? Do you think that if a woman is slapped once, her makeup goes flying off her face? And how do you know that the slap, whoever received it, was to the face, and not, say, the arm or the back?
Quartz: You know what slaps sound like. If you had received the particular slaps you heard, from your GF, would you want me to call the cops on your behalf?
Sadly in USA 2018 there are ``humans" who think that protesting unfairness against men is wrong or defending male victims of Domestic Violence is wrong.
Even though SDMB is 70% male, almost all members who ask for fairness toward men have either been banned or post rarely.