Unfortunately, there is very little in life of non – disabled Americans I can relate to.
So why do you think you can make friends you can talk to on the telephone? Here’s a hint; a real friend can relate and talk about stuff happening to one’s friends even if it’s outside one’s experiences.
Another thing; more than a few people here are disabled in various ways and yet they manage to relate and talk to those who are not disabled. So if you can’t relate to the non-disabled, that’s on you, not your disability.
Could you expand on this a little more? What is your specific disability? Why does it make you feel so isolated and unable to relate? Have you looked at online disability-support forums?
Absolutely. I have found that when I’ve been shrouded in the troubles of feeling isolated and different than my able-bodied peers, it’s because I’ve been the one wallowing in those disparities and magnifying them well out of proportion. My disability (spinal cord injury) is but a small blip on the larger map of who I am as a person and it is in all of that vast non-disability terrain that I am able to find common ground with my peers.
I am sorry – I have Autism (Asperger’s) combined with Moderate Depression. Most people would consider my problems very minor.
Maybe I do not want to fit into American Society by destroying my identity? I do not know myself.
I hope everything works out for you.
I understand that my situation is minor.
No, don’t compare your situation to others’. It’s your life, so it’s not comparable to the perceived plights, or lack thereof, of others. You are the only one who has to live your life, so who, besides you, determines what is a ‘major’ issue and what is a ‘minor’ one?
I wish I had a phone. I’d talk to you. I don’t have Aspergers but my daughter does so I get what you’re going through. I also kinda-sorta have agoraphobia but I’m getting better. And I’m a bit of a chub. 
I hope you find phone friends soon.
Thank you very much. For some reason or combination of reasons my life did not work out so far. Maybe my PhD in Mathematics which I do not like at all was a great mistake.
If you or anyone knows how to obtain therapy or telephone therapy at reasonable cost, I would greatly appreciate.
You just said you like video games. That is a mutual interest you share with many MANY people and a way to relate to them.
This is a crucial point – the old adage that you have to be a friend to have one. You have to be interested in other people – for real interested, not pretend interested, they’ll know the difference – otherwise they will (rightly) feel like there’s nothing in this “friendship” for them, and it’s all about what YOU want. That’s not how friendship works – it has to be a two-way street.
As said, many others here and elsewhere are interested in such games. Participate in or start threads on one of the games you play. (I checked and the only threads I could find on Runescape are a couple of years old. But don’t let that stop you; perhaps there is latent interest.) And if you like non-computer games (e.g., board games like Settlers of Cataan or card games like Magic: The Gathering or role-playing games like Dungeons & Dragons), see if there are regular meetings of players of such games.
I guarantee that you’re not the only person with autism or Asperger’s or just social awkwardness who plays these games in your area.
And you mentioned a PhD in Mathematics. I thought you said in a previous thread that you never actually finished the degree, and you have said more than once that you don’t like it. But if acquired any skills or knowledge whatsoever in all those years in school, you can do much better than a $300 monthly allowance. Lots of companies from Wall Street to Silicon Valley pay math people big bucks to do all sorts of things. And, again, many such people (even very successful ones) are autistic, have Asperger’s or are just socially awkward.
If you are “American”, why did you state your weight in “Kg.”?
The fact that I lived in this country since 1980s does not make me an American.
That may sound strange but part of Depression is Hopelessness. I gave up trying to improve my life very long ago.
Part of Hopelessness is having no long – term goals. Or almost no long term goals.
So then are you a British, a French or from Delaware?
Sounds like you have one goal of having a friend to talk to on the phone.
But you sound against anything that would help you get to that goal. Maybe changing your attitude about some of those boundaries you’ve established, might help you get to your goal.
From Russia.
That is just one short term goal – a therapist would be much better.