This is what I would do. Don’t be confrontational about it - but if you hear something she said that’s not true, call her on it. That’s the only way I’ve been successful dealing with people who do this - spreading rumors and such - I flat out call them out on it.
DMark,
I too had an evil co-worker who was fond of spreading gossip and lies, and made it her business to get people she didn’t like in trouble, like me. She focused on me and everything I did to the point where I was on the defensive each day. Her own behaviour was both weird (talking to herself VERY loudly about how we [the people in nearby cubes she didn’t like] were so stupid and were making her job so hard) and terrible (setting verbal traps for people she didn’t like and arousing suspicion where there was no need for it).
The following may sound strange, but I tried it and it works. If you can, get something with her name written on it (best if she herself has written her name), like a signed document, etc. Cut out her name on the document, and put it into a plastic or glass tube. Fill the tube with water, and then put the tube in the freezer.
It will stop her COLD (get it?). It may not stop the behaviour completely, but it will take her focus off you. This is not magic or spell-casting of any sort. It is merely a way to put her bad energy toward you on ice, as it were. Again, it may not stop her behaviour, but it should take the focus of it off you.
Good luck!
Oh, I beg to differ.
Be sure to cackle loudly every time you catch sight of her after doing this and when people ask what that’s all about tell them what you did.
I read of a better one: Send a picture of a bullet captioned “I may be just a picture, but you’ll still be dead.”
(This isn’t a recommendation, just a retelling.)
PLUS: We need an update.
Check with a lawyer about the possibility of having a small recorder and record conversations.
What I did with a toxic bitch was whenever she came over and would make cracks like ‘you look a bit upset today’ would be to do my best vapid blond impression. Wide eyes, and total innocence remark something like Why, you don’t say. I wonder what could possibly be upsetting me. <blink blink> or if she tells you that someone is <whatever> do pretty much the same - Why, really. You don’t say. and immediately ignore her and go back to work. No matter what she tries, you basically aren’t interested, don’t have time, or need to ask her about something work related.
And document your work offsite where you can get to it. If you do end up able to document her pestering you, go to HR immediately.
It’s almost been an hour. Looks like DMark is in a bad mood.
Someone got a case of the Mondays?
I’m with Gary T. I am an expert (PhD in Folklore), and this is pretty much the textbook definition of a magic spell. I’m curious as to (1) why you think it is not, and (2) why it matters to you whether it is or isn’t.
If she’s not your boss, you should straight up tell her to STFU about you, and that if you hear back anything else, you’ll take it upstairs. Fuck that bullshit. Psychos should not be allowed to go unchecked.
Just now saw this thread resurrected!
OK, here is the update:
Karma has been a bitch for this co-worker!
- We got a new boss - a woman, much younger than both co-worker and I.
- Didn’t take long for new boss to catch on to co-worker’s tricks.
- They moved us into new, separate offices.
- Co-worker doesn’t know this, but she is being watched very carefully and a document trail has been started.
- My new boss, and the boss above her, have asked me some questions that lead me to suspect they are unhappy with some of the antics this woman has performed.
- A few people have stepped up and complained about the gossip and attitude - so I am no longer the only one who has noticed. This has really helped put the spotlight on her and raise many eyebrows.
So I am much happier now - don’t have to listen to her bullshit all day, now that we have separate offices. The new boss is fed up and has had several heated conversations with that woman. Even the President of the company no longer stops by, nor does this co-worker go see him much - so perhaps he has finally heard back from others in charge about the validity of her comments.
I am glad I didn’t actively do anything (although I was sorely tempted). I think the jig is up for her and time will tell what happens next - but if I were my evil co-worker, I would notice that there has been a shift in public opinion and maybe she has also noticed that people are keeping their distance.
So in case anyone is interested, I am in a pretty damned good mood now!
“I’m not even going to ask you where you heard that silly rumor. (laugh) I guess somebody got bored and needed some drama today.”
I just noticed this. Great news!
<cancels order for the large crane and the small house>
Wow, I just ran into this thread by accident. I read the OP and cannot believe how evil some people can be. About that evil co-worker; they should lock her up and throw away the key. People like that are the reason why society degrades. I deal with bad co-workers too, but not to the extent of the OP’s. My workplace is all about slander, false accusations, and evil gossip about me. I don’t bother anyone and keep to myself and yet these people find an excuse to talk shit, even if they have to make it up. Gossip begins with blowing something out of proportion, and by the time the day is over, it’s an entirely different story. I think office workplace is probably the worst when it comes to gossip and evil co-workers. And I’m not trying to sound sexist but it’s usually the women who are the biggest backstabbers in an office workplace, and guess what? they’ll even admit to it.
But the biggest question is, did you put her name in a container with water and freeze it?