How were you meant to order off this kind of 19th century menu?

I daresay women of the day strapped into corsets would probably take a few tiny bites, mostly playing at eating while being attractive sparkling conversationalists.

Hold the poop! In 1868, a group of women held a lunch without men at Delmonico’s, and it became a meeting place for a women’s club called Sorosis (meaning sister)

They also had their own farm to provide fresh produce.

The same cite includes another early Delmonico menu (I can only manage to post a thumbnail picture)

Avocados? They weren’t growing thoseIn Brooklyn.

(Eggplants grow nicely in that climate, though.)