There is clearly something to practice, as it were.
There is also room for a lot of clinical and/or esoteric language to describe exactly what happens and where and how it subjectively feels and how you should be yogically connected to the experience, which seems like what the OP was asking about.
That was me, and since you asked, I am a woman.
As far as “yogic connection,” I’m not exactly sure what that means, but I’m not very emotional about sex.
That doesn’t matter, because there’s no such thing as “yogic connection” or yogic anything. I don’t know about the science of the human orgasm, but I think a lot of it can be explained by a massive release of dopamine and adenaline.
The connection would be things you can consciously affect to some extent: it could be your mental state about the whole thing (would you rather be somewhere else and get it over with as quickly as possible, or are you into it to the extent of losing yourself? Are you having fun?), all the way to clenching certain muscles. I do not think you can make your body directly squirt adrenaline, but you can focus on subjective sensations.
I can recall trying to understand why people would take drugs or devote their life to gambling (looking at you Mom) or running marathons . I wondered if the “high” those things gave them was akin to my “high” from an orgasm? Once I understood what it was (the feeling of the orgasm) I knew that I would always want to feel that way again. I have met several people ( all female) who have not experienced it, and it made me so sad. I was with an older woman (>70) who had her first one with me and she cried PROFUNDLY for quite while afterward. I was worried that I had injured her. When she finally recovered she said. “I always wondered what the big deal was with sex. Now I know”.
Right. Nobody likes an overactor.
It’s exactly like sniffing amyl nitrite.
Speaking as a woman, that sounds like a pretty good description to me.
Yeah, there’s a pretty large range. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced the cosmic event. But I’ve had profoundly satisfying orgasms, and “hmm, is that all i can do?” orgasms. Sadly, the later grow more common with age.
I don’t think language is really up to the task of describing any sensation that somebody hasn’t experienced. How would you describe pain? How would you describe green?
The thing about subjective experience is that the subject has to experience it.
That’s what I was going to say. It’s an intense buildup of pressure and then such a release. I think both parts are fabulous, the build up and the orgasm.
It would take more time to figure out how to describe it than it would to just go ahead and have one. Or two.
Not everyone can have it so easily.
My analogy is when you awaken from a really sound sleep and then get to do a full-body stretch. It’s not quite an orgasm, but your whole sympathetic nervous system gets to fire at the same time.
Languages are just not good enough for describing qualia.
The universe is dead silent. Our ears detect vibrations and that dimension of madness in our brain is “sound”. There is no “sound”. Deaf person feels a vibration of a diesel engine, but further than that analogy falls short. And how would we ever be able to comprehend what birds actually FEEL with their sense of magnetism?
Speaking of orgasms, many years ago I was on medication for some neurological issues. Orgasms at the time were different…I realised there are two different “flavors”. They were identical in amplitude and frequency, but one “flavor” was a bit delayed and “out of phase” with another. Weird. All my life I though the thing was let’s say “orange”, it turned out there’s a “red” and a “yellow” layer which I never realized before because they were perfectly overlapping. Perhaps those ingridients were different types of orgasms women can experience? I don’t know.
Ok, so if we’re going to talk about how orgasms taste, we’re opening a whole new kind of discussion…!
I think you are both underestimating the importance of poetry.
I’ve heard an orgasm described by a doctor as “a pleasurable epileptic fit”.
I don’t know how accurate that is. And I’ve never had an epileptic fit.
Or fiction. I’m not saying it’s always good fiction, but if you want to know what women think orgasms feel like, romance novels are not a bad place to start. Or read some erotica. People have been trying to describe what that feels like for a long time.
Lately I’ve taken to describing the details more than the sensation directly. I believe it was Chuck Pahlaniuk who said in an action story, never describe the pain directly. Describe all the little details around it and the reader will feel the pain. I’ve found that effective for pain, and maybe it’s effective for pleasure, too. Something to experiment with.
And no thread on this subject would be complete without the Bad Sex in Fiction Awards:
Listen to the finale of Wagner’s “Tristan und Isolde”, sometimes called “Liebestod” or “the death of Isolde”. The last 30 seconds or so are the musical equivalent of an orgasm.
… and just slightly more messy
jokes aside: I am surprised I haven’t read the word “spasm” so far … (at least [ctrl][f] comes up empty) …
buildup with pleasurable spasmic release