Last January my maternal grandmother died leaving behind her husband of 50+ years, my grandfather. They never had a really romatic relationship. I would liken it to Edith and Archie Bunker, but I really believe that they genuinely loved each other.
Fast forward eight months. My grandfather started hanging out with a widow that’s about the same age as him, and before long, they were an item. My family had absolutely no problem with this. We were happy to see him out and about, and having fun while not succumbing to depression over the loss of my grandmother. Eventually things became “hot and heavy” between him and his new girl, so much so that he felt it necessary to inform my mother that he started taking Viagra (he’s 74). This was a little weird to me, but I thought “Hey,I don’t blame him.” They have spent considerable time together over the last eight months until my grandfather was, for all intents and purposes, living with this woman.
Here’s the bad part. He’s only been dating this woman for eight months, and just recently my mother was having lunch with his girlfriend and she told my mom that my grandfather wanted to sell his house, and get married to her.
There’s two things that urk me about this. Number one, he never said anything to my mother. I know he’s an adult and can make his own decisions, but it would have been nice of him to let my mother in on such a big decision. Number two, he wants to sell his house. This has nothing to do with money, but we don’t want him to sell his house because if something would happen to his girlfriend, he would have no place to go because her daughter gets the house.
The whole thing upsets me because I love my grandfather with all of my heart, but he’s not thinking straight. I would like to say something to him about hurting himself and my mother, but I don’t know if that’s my place.
What would you do?