You guys are so nice. Thank you.
I intend to try a site or two this weekend and see what happens. 
This thread is really dragging my self-esteem through the gutter.
I said “generally”, not universally. Serious relationships, even unmarried, count too. And I have a few friends who are exceptions to this.
Sorry to weaken your self esteem. Maybe “advice columnist” is not a good career choice for me.
Eh, I’ll get over it.
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Hey, I’m on OK Cupid. It seems like there are plenty of adult people on there, and almost all the profiles I’ve read have been fully intelligible.
Too bad I hate dating and am uncomfortable meeting strangers…we’ll see if I get anywhere.
My brilliant, wonderful, awesomely beautiful aunt divorced my asshole uncle (he’s really my uncle, she’s my aunt by marriage) and, in her 50’s, met a GREAT man on match.com. He’s such a great guy and it makes me tear up so see her so happy…finally.
They just recently got married and I couldn’t be happier for them.
Over the weekend I sent an OKCupid message for the first time in at least three years, and I was very disappointed to see that along with the “your message has been sent!” confirmation there was also an “edit your profile to appeal to [user you just messaged]!” prompt. Encouraging people to repeatedly tailor their profiles? Seriously? I’ll stay on the site for the reasons I’ve already mentioned, but that idea really bugged/bugs me.
Hey Brynda, have you ever seen those real estate ads that promise a “fixer-upper with lots of charm at a great price”? I’m the human equivalent. I’m 43, chronically depressed, learning-disabled, funny, talented, musical, well-spoken, balding, overweight, diabetic, and live off my family investment portfolio…<drumroll please>…And I’m available! 
I always tell people "You don’t hate dating. Dating hates you!"
For some reason it doesn’t seem to help.
I’m not a fan of meeting people online, but I love OKCupid. The quizzes are fun, and it’s neat how it manages to match me to people who really do seem very interesting. The best feature of the site is the blog, where they take data harvested from their website and statistically analyze it to answer questions like “what’s the deal with myspace angles.”
In the most recent post, they point out that pay dating websites have a strong incentive to misrepresent their true database, and show you inactive profiles. They make the least money by connecting you with other, paying customers.
Do not discount Internet dating sites.
We have a couple clients that are these and the data that comes from those studies are very interesting. Something like 40% of all new couples meet first online (and this isn’t these companies bling…the data really seems to show that.)
I have a feeling that we have started to jump the hurdle with online=loser and this is probably the way of the future.
Either that…or else the losers are mating. :eek: This could be the ruin of civilization.
I am on OKCupid and so far my matches are nothing to write home about. I think it hurts me tremendously to be a heathen in the Bible Belt. I have some very strange matches. Either that, or I am very strange. Always a possiblity.
Occam’s razor, and all that, ya know. 
My sister met her husband on Match.com and they have been married now for almost 20 years.
This makes me smile.
OKCupid is great. Though it did somehow accidentally match me with someone from Canada and we started talking and one thing led to another and it lead to heartache and and and…
Okay, so just make sure that you only go for local matches unless you’re willing to move to Canada. I didn’t have any long-term success with OKC but I did meet some very cool, nice guys and went on a bunch of nice first dates (and some horribly awkward first dates, but hey stories to tell!) and it was a positive experience. I do better at meeting men IRL I guess because of my demographic, 30something in the city.
Man, I had no idea that match.com had been around that long.
Hell, I had no idea that any dot-coms had been around that long.
I haven’t noticed that particular prompt but sometimes as I’m checking out someone else’s profile they’ll list something that’ll make me think, oh! I’m into that too I should add it to my profile! Then I feel bad doing this if they’re someone I’m about to message, but I honesty did leave something out, really I did!
Maybe that’s what they’re getting at although if so it’s poorly worded. I don’t imagine they want you to put anything in there that isn’t true.
Well their son is 14 now? Give or take a few years. I have been online over 20 years. My point is I know one success story. It only took her 3 dates to find her man.
Per wikipedia, match.com was started in 1993. 17 years is close to 20 :).