I dislike my job

I apologize for the length and the whininess, but allow me to vent a bit. Short version: I dislike my job, and would like to move on to a less paid, but more satisfying academic position, but income constraints and worries about the economy, as well as dread of wifely anger, do not allow me to make the jump.

Here’s the long version now:

After completing my PhD, a grant application from my supervisor and me was not approved (got lots of positive feedback, but at the end of the day it didn’t make the cut). There were no other positions to fill in my University, and since my wife was (and is) pregnant, we didn’t really want to move. On the other side, well, we really needed some source of income.

So when my supervisor put me in touch with an ex-student of his who was the CTO of a big international software house with a branch near the Uni, I thought it was a godsend. Even my supervisor said it was the second best possibility to continue collaborating with him, as it looked like this company would work in the area I worked in, so they were especially interested in my work. Everyone is happy, right?

Ummm, no. I am not. I am aware that in these times of economical crisis, I should be grateful of what I have, but the problem is, I don’t like it at all.

I just deleted a very long chunk of text where I complained about a long list of things I am uncomfortable with, dislike, or just plain hate, but it was really too detailed. It will have to be enough to say: I am asked to do stuff I don’t know how to do, with no training, little support, angry co-workers (who I never met anyway, since we are all over the world), and the promise of an interest in my previous work set aside and assigned to others (who are NOT skilled at it, may I add).

So I dread going to work, I feel morose and frustrated and incredibly bored, and if this was an ideal world I’d move on to another position. Ideally, an academic position. And I also found some for which I’d make a very good candidate, but the problem is, well, my wife.

She is very patient, and tried to be supportive, but it’s clear she’d much prefer I’d stay where I am because of two reasons: my wage is much higher here, and if I pass probation I’ll have a permanent contract in a well respected IT company. Not to mention that if I went for an academic job I’d have to move, almost certainly, and we’re not keen on that.

The frustrating thing is that if I had this job, say, five years ago, I’d have been the happiest man. Good pay, famous company, 100% programming - I’d have been delighted. Now, however, I am different, and prefer research. Even my supervisor told me that many students, after a PhD, have problems fitting in the industry. So my issues might come out of culture shock, but figuring out the problem does not make it go away.

And now here I am, tired, stressed, frustrated, whiny, grumpy, disaffected, and probably stuck long term in a disliked job.

Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There is a support group for that. Its called EVERYBODY and they meet at the bar.” Drew Carey. :slight_smile:

Sorry to hear things are going badly. You spend nearly a third of your waking hours at a job, if you hate it, it just plain sucks.

Good luck.

You put into words what my brain screams at me every morning.

I have a great job, making great pay, but I am bored to death with it and life.

I never chose to live, yet I somehow choose to accept what is easy for me in order to continue.

If you were dropped onto a planet out of your will, what would you do?

Take an 8 - 5 comfortable job? I don’t think that would be my first choice.

I hope things work out for you.

Having been the wife in this sort of situation (only I wasn’t pregnant!), I suggest that you talk to her. Tell her just how unhappy you are. See if you can come up with some kind of solution or compromise. If she’s a stand-up gal, she doesn’t want you to be miserable all the time and dread going to work every damned day.

Our situation was a bit different because hubby didn’t quit his miserable job, but was downsized. He makes less money now (and I make more because I took up the slack while he spent several years finding something better), but he’s a lot happier, and I’m happier because he’s happier.

If you don’t like your job DO something about it. If you can’t change your job, get your resume in order and start looking.

This is one of the worst times to be looking, but since you got a job, you keep that and look while employed.

When you get a few interviews under your belt, who knows? Maybe when you see what else is out there, you’ll appreciate your job you have and stay.

The thing is if you can get an offer, even if you refuse it, you’ll feel better, 'cause you’ll know you’re not stuck. Nothing is worse than being stuck in a job you hate. Well that is nothing is worse till you have no job and have to take the minimum wage stuff that comes along.

So start updating your resume and start looking. Even if nothing comes of the search, you’ll feel better doing something postive about a crummy job.