Nothing wrong with that at all. That’s probably what I’d do. Though I might have added a comment about how the kid did not need to be so snotty. If the kid is snotty to me, I reserve the right to tell them that. I wouldn’t rant, I wouldn’t rave, I wouldn’t be mean. I might simply say, “I am an adult, you don’t need to tell me when to cross. And you certainly should not speak in such a snotty tone to anyone, especially not an adult who is also a stranger.”
Oh, give me a break. The OP did and said nothing to the little snot. The OP simply vented a little on this board. Not “freaking out.” I see no “freaking out” from the OP.
As you might have noticed, a lot of Pit threads are less than cosmic or profound. There’s one about cheeseburgers and hamburgers. Is that also freaking out because it’s in the Pit? I don’t think so.
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Apparently you’re the willfully obtuse idiot for missing my point entirely, and for actually helping to make it with yet another “strongly worded lesson” for the guy who doesn’t like kids.
My point is that regardless of whether I choose to behave in a civilized manner around children or not is up to me. I can handle it just fine. What I can’t handle is people like you constantly reminding me to do so with your little “what kind of a lesson is that” and “a fine example you set” commentary.
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Someone a little less dim than you seem to be would note that I said I don’t expect you to set any example for my child or teach him any lessons. What most parents expect is for you to behave like a normal fucking person around them and their children. Of course it’s up to you whether you will behave like a normal fucking person – but that it’s not a matter or course, but choice to you, says a lot about your character.
Well, tone is subjective. If you’re inclined to dislike children, then you’ll be more likely to think they’re being snotty all the time.
Actually, and this is of course just my perception, I think this is yet one more reminder from featherlou that she doesn’t like children, and one more opportunity for kid-haters to stand behind her and say “Yeah! Kids suck, aren’t I badass?” Plus, when a person is upset enough by an incident to Pit it – like, a REAL incident, not just a faux-angry Pit rant – then I think they’re pretty wound up about it, yeah.
Forgive me posting in the “who hates kids the most thread”, since I’m one of these bunged up nutballs that actually likes them…
but
a) how funny that most of you dislike children because you can’t relate to them on your highly advanced adult level (i.e., helpless, boring to talk to, childlike) Yet when one of them is given a semi-adult responsibility like being a crossing guard and carries that responsibility out, you react by calling him a sprog, a CROTCH APPLE and suggesting BITCHSLAPPING HIM or giving him the finger, claiming he’s an upstart or obnoxious.
b) where are all of these “smelly”, “sticky” kids coming from? Unless you are talking about a three month old with a full diaper specifically, I think you’ve seen Oliver one too many times. Most of the kids I hang around are so clean and shiny you could eat off their fucking sternums.
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c) Wow? Featherlou hates kids. Whodathunk? I mean, it’s only her 16,000 post on the subject. SHINE ON YOU CRAZY DIAMOND. You really are bucking the system sister.
Well, since I’ve already stated that I like children, I hope that you’ll give me the benefit of the doubt and trust that I’d know when one was truly being snotty.
“Wound up” is not the same as “freaking out.”
I don’t participate in the “kid hating” threads and I don’t generally keep track of who does or does not like kids. I simply think that one can post a rant without FREAKING OUT about it.
I also think that one can like kids and yet not always be enchanted with their behavior or their upbringing. I like kids and I seem to get along with them (I think it’s because I don’t talk down to them). But one thing I cannot stand is a snotty kid that hasn’t learned where the boundaries are. I don’t wish to be mean to the kid—I simply don’t think it’s a kindness to allow them to continue to think it’s okay to behave in such a manner.
AWWWWW, we don’t WANNA SET A GOOD EXAMPLE! :: stomping feet:: MY LIFE AT EVERY MOMENT IS SO FUCKING IMPORTANT that I can’t even be polite to a fellow human being.
And what do we do with snotty adults, like the ones, perhaps who refer to children getting out of school as ‘being released from the zoo’? or JayJay who likes to give little kids the finger. Or the poster on page 1 who suggested that featherlou bitchslap the crossing guard?
I don’t think it’s ok to behave in THAT manner, either.
Certainly not. I’d never behave in such a way. Giving kids the finger? That’s awful.
However, I don’t take hyperbole spewed on a message board too seriously (about what people say they’d do), but man, if they’d ever actually do it, they’d get a serious bitchslapping from me.
I wasn’t talking about your judgment, I was talking about featherlou’s, who has mentioned plenty of times she doesn’t like children.
Depends on who you ask, I suppose. It seems like such a tiny tiny minor incident to carry with you to your computer to me, but hey, it takes different strokes to move the world, right.
I don’t participate in the “kid hating” threads and I don’t generally keep track of who does or does not like kids. I simply think that one can post a rant without FREAKING OUT about it.
Peachy keen. I don’t believe I ever said children should get a free pass to behave like assholes – they deserve to be called on it, just like adults. And in this case, if you (the general you, not specific you) declare that you don’t like an entire group of people, your judgment is less than reliable when it comes to a member of that group’s behavior.
I responded to that - you chose not to quote it and you have missed it twice now. My original post was not directed at you.
So I guess that less dim person would be you, having missed my entire point AGAIN. Incredible. When you missed it the first time, you called me willfully obtuse and / or an idiot. When you missed it the second time you called me dim. And lo! There’s another finger-wagging preachy statement thrown in about my character, making my point (that you missed) for me once more.
Here it is, AGAIN, in nice boldy letters for you: MY PROBLEM IS WITH THE PREACHING FROM THE PARENTS ABOUT HOW I’M REQUIRED TO BEHAVE, NOT WITH THE CHILDREN THEMSELVES.
This has nothing to do with what “most parents” want, or what “most parents” expect. It has nothing to do with setting a good example. It has to do with people feeling they have the right to TELL me that I should set a good example. IOW, It has to do with people in this thread that feel it appropriate to lecture others in the ways of proper behavior around children.
Gee, I wonder what brutal namecalling you’ll use for your next post that again misses my point…
The remainder of that statement was a JUDGMENT on your character, not a DIRECTIVE. You’re not REQUIRED to act any way, but I’m more than happy to tell you you’re an ass if you behave like one.
And: I don’t expect people to behave any differently around my child than they would around me, if they don’t know me already. Normal, non-socially-retarded people behave in a certain way towards strangers: they don’t yell at them, call them idiotic names, or physically assault them. If expecting that minimally civilized behavior from a stranger is preaching to them on how to behave, then I’m okay with that.
Okay, fair enough. However, not liking children does not automatically mean that all children one encounters are not capable of being snotty.
Well, yeah. Some of the rants here are pretty trivial, and yet are not all deemed as “FREAKING OUT.”
I think that some people here have indicated that the kid should be cut some slack or catered to. (As in, wait for some undetermined and nebulous amount of time for the kids to prepare whatever it was they needed to prepare, and cross with them. As if one wants to wait that long!)
But since you were not there, you really don’t know if the kid was snotty, or not. And you certainly can’t claim that just because someone doesn’t like kids that any snotty kids they encounter can’t be snotty after all!
To me, it sounds like the kid was snotty. Unless the OP is twisting what the actual words of the kid were. But if the kid was quoted verbatim, it sounds snotty to me. (Not that I know, anymore than you know.) The kid could have asked why the OP didn’t wait to cross. The kid could have expressed some concern or alarm towards the OP. Instead, the way the comment was phrased sounds like the kid was admonishing or “commanding” the OP on what to do “next time.” That definitely sounds snotty to me, and I like kids.
Fine with me, as long as acting annoyed towards a child that happens to be annoying towards me doesn’t autmoatically qualify me as an ass that needs a lecture on “setting a better example.”
Putting words in my mouth, but no. We don’t want to be told in a condescending parental tone to set a better example. You know, a tone like this:
Nope, it doesn’t. But it doesn’t mean I should trust her judgment either. Like you said, neither of us was there. ::shrug::
I see this as being part of a strata of kid-friendliness. I cut kids slack because I like them and see it as reasonable to do so since they’re still “under construction”, but someone who has no particular affinity for kids isn’t obligated to, I don’t think. A bare minimum of civility was called for in this case – tell the kid you don’t like his behavior and move on. It ain’t rocket surgery, folks.
So, I’m assuming there’s some history here that I’m not aware of, but…
it seems to me that the OP did behave in a civilized manner - she waited until the light was in her favour and the coast was clear before crossing. As far as I’m concerned, she did set a good example (wait for light, check coast is clear) - in theory a child could wind up at a crosswalk with no crossing gaurd and featherlou has provided a good example of how to get accross the road.
She didn’t even say anything to the crossing guard who was being snotty (according to her description).
I guess I don’t really understand what you and jarbaby are getting so worked up about, although I get the impression that featherlou has posted about a dislike of children before. Personally, I’ve never noticed, but that certainly doesn’t mean that it hasn’t happend. NB - no cites are required - I’ll just take your word for it.
Finally, DegantheWolf is a bone head. Both here, and in his stupid PC thread.
