It’s not really talked about, the period after you graduate from college is one of the harder points of transition. You have a lot of options, but little direction. For the first time, you are outside of an institutional setting that is geared towards making you succeed. You are likely under financial distress, and having to lower your living standards dramatically. It’s tough.
That said, if you can muster up a sense of direction, it will help you immensely.
I have two sets of friends. One set graduated from a hippy liberal arts school, with stars in their eyes but no real plan for the future. Now that we are hitting 30, most of them are working random jobs…SAT tutor, waiter, elementary school computer lab tech, etc. None of them get paid well, but most are moderately happy. None of them have achieved much, but they live pretty normal lives.
THe other group joined Peace Corps right out of college, as part of a greater plan. Most of that group is now living in DC, all working in international relations jobs that give them opportunities to travel- which is their dream. All of them are having a blast living the young urban professional lifestyle, and have bright financial futures ahead of them. Most of them are 2 or 3 years younger than me and my college friends, but working “real” jobs on a career path.
I screwed around with the first mindset for a while, and all it really did was waste my time. The moment I jumped on the second mindset’s caravan, stuff in my life started coming together like magic. I just got a job, and I got paid more for 2.5 hours of filling out paperwork yesterday than I made in entire day during my first post-college job. When you figure out where your headed and know how to ask for what you want, you start getting it. A lot of the difference between success and stagnation is knowing how to ask for it. And if you can come up with your plan while you are young, people will help you. People want to see bright young things succeed.
Anyway, you’ve got my sympathy. It may take a bit to figure things out. But don’t dismiss the idea of a plan out of hand. If you don’t eventually start making decions, life is gonna make those decions for you.