I’ve never thought of myself as a stay at home mom. It was never my intention to be a stay at home mom. I went back to work after my son was born. I loved my job and wanted to keep working. When I stopped loving my job, and it was negatively affecting my life. I quit. Suburban Plankton makes enough to support our family, so I didn’t look for a new position.
I feel silly when I am referred to as a stay at home mom. When my son was younger, I guess I was a SAHM. Now he’s a teenager who pretty much takes care of himself, and it doesn’t seem like the title fits. I’ve had some part time jobs since over the years, but nothing permanent or related to my career field.
When I’m meeting people who ask me what I “do”, I generally tell them about my volunteer work. I was recently put in charge of one of the programs at the Sacramento city shelter working with pit bulls to earn their Canine Good Citizen certification. I’m very excited about it. I was telling my mom about it and saying I was happy to have a title, and she was like, “Oh, when people ask I just tell them you’re a stay at home mom.” I said I didn’t think I was qualified as I don’t have little kids and she just dismissed me saying I should be proud to be a stay at home mom. I don’t get where I should take pride in not having to work. I mean, yay, my husband makes good money, by how is that something that I should take pride in?
At what age (of the kids) does one stop being a SAHM and just become not employed? Also, if one is working very hard, but not for money, does that mean they are still a SAHM or are they a working mom?