So, I’m on a field job in a hellish part of the country (SOUTHsouth, super hot, lotsa humidity and I’m originally from a cold dry climate). My first day down here was a nightmare. Equipment problems, 106 degree heat (plus whatever humidity was out and about), heat exhaustion for me (including talking to Ralph and nearly passing out several times), snarky, unpredictable, judgmentally young (you know the type), too-book-smart-for-her-own-good coworker…
It’s been a real joy (heavy sarcasm). The first two days were sheer misery (due to factors listed above, and more), the last 4 days went much more smoothly and we’ve got about 3-3.5 days left. And for the most part we’ve worked it out, but…
Let me ask you all this. In my 40 some odd years of working (since I was a pre-teen), I’ve pretty much understood that it’s the employees duty to show up at work reasonably well-fed, well-rested and ready to go. Right?
Do any of you think it’s reasonable or normal for an employee (or just a human in general for that matter) to be “I’m really quiet in the morning” (where “really quiet” frankly equals 1-3 hours in the morning of “silent as the grave” and giving off obvious “I hate the world because I have to be up early” vibes, including critical snarky statements if your coworker [me in this case] has to confirm she’s going the correct direction to the work site, for instance), for a lion’s share of the work morning?
The girl claims that it’s just that “you’re internalizing it and interpreting it wrong” and that she’s not being snarky at all. But here’s just one example. I was driving one morning (didn’t make THAT mistake again, I’ve made her drive since then). Anyway, I asked “it’s left at the main road right”? And she answers “well, you’ve been by the sign that says our site name 1000 times”. How hard is it to simply confirm “yes, that’s right”? If you’re SOoooooOOO “quiet” in the morning, and have that much trouble, (where other times she acts as if she’s about to die from fatigue and can’t possibly work up the energy to say two words), wouldn’t it have been easier and required less energy to just say “yes”?
Now, part of the time, she can be a real sweetheart, but there’s no predicting the snark monster. And it seems to occur when I least expect it. Generally if I’m just confirming a task or some such. But then other times she snarks when I’m NOT sharing every last thought I have! (ARGH!). And she literally NEVER starts even discussing the job in any sort of civil way until at least a good solid hour into the day. Most of the time it’s closer to two or three hours.
I mean, I’m not expecting either of us to be full of joy at brutally early morning hours (the only way to safely and quickly complete a good portion of the work day in the relative cool), and I’ve made it clear I’m not expecting “Chatty Kathy”.
Even so, this girl usually refuses to say much more than two or three words, ONLY if absolutely necessary (for example, faint weak pointing motion toward gas station, “stopping for gas”) and that in a very obvious “I’m miserable, this sucks” kind of tiny moan-y I-hate-the-world-I-can’t-possibly-be-expected-to-put-any-more-energy-into-any-decibels-than-for-them-to-make-it-two-inches-past-my-face voice, for anywhere from an hour to three hours into the work day.
And I can see 10 to 15 minutes on the way to the job site, drinking coffee and gearing up for the day, but isn’t it kind of odd for someone to need THAT much time to become reasonably civil and work-sociable? I’m thinking, God help her if she gets out on site with someone who’s not willing to put up with it. She claims this is the “just the way I am, I’m not changing for anyone”. If you were this girl’s husband or boyfriend would you put up with this?
Am I the unreasonable one? Should I be making sure I stay silent as the grave as well (when in Rome…). Is this normal? I say snark, immaturity, and lack of professional courtesy, what is your opinion dopers?
Yeesh, I can’t wait until we’re done.