I dont know why I read this thread. its like picking a scab I guess.
Jesse, you seem to think alllll your troubles will be over if you just have a girlfriend/FWB. What will happen if something goes not according to plan with said girlfriend/FWB in your life? Are you going to revert to your default Woe Is Me mode? I think that will be reason enough for her to exit your life. So my advice FWIW is to use this opportunity to get an Attitude Transplant and find a way to make the best of your life, with or without what you think you want.
The first thing we’ll hear from him if he gets a girlfriend is how life is so difficult and depressing when you’re not married.
No, I’ll be fine. I can deal with everything else. I can’t deal with the fact that I’m almost 27 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. At this age, everyone else I know has multiple exes. This just shows how inferior I am.
Not at all. In a day and age where half of all marriages end in divorce, I don’t care if I get married. I just want to get my first girlfriend already so that I can stop feeling inferior to everyone else.
My brother is about ten years older than you and has never had a girlfriend; he lives with our parents and is on government disability. There, now you have at least one person in the world you can feel superior to. Quit yer bellyachin’.
Well, if I have to compare myself to the lowest common denominator to feel better, then I might as well pack it in.
Wow, I’m sure your potential girlfriends will be glad to hear that at best they’re just there to be a milestone, middling they’re there to pad your ego and get you over your insecurities, and at worst they’re a trophy.
No, they won’t, because there aren’t any potential girlfriends.
Dude, what girl would want to be with you with that attitude? What are you bringing to the table in a relationship?
Nothing anymore, since going this long without ever having a girlfriend has completely crushed my soul.
A while ago, I was complaining to my therapist that I felt stupid for feeling unhappy and unfulfilled just because I hadn’t had a significant relationship in a while. It seemed childish that having great friends and a great career weren’t enough. He asked me why I thought feeling lonely wasn’t a legitimate problem to feel bad about, and it really put into perspective for me why this common advice about being happy with yourself before being in a relationship is so bad.
Of course, being desolately whiny like Jesse Pinkman isn’t a reasonable response to being single. But I think it’s pretty clear he needs to stop moaning on the Internet and seek professional help. For regular people being lonely is a reasonable thing to be quite upset about. We’re social by nature - it’s only natural to be unhappy about being alone.
If you repeatedly talk about killing yourself you’re either:
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In need of serious professional help. This message board isn’t going to help you.
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Sympathy whoring. This message board isn’t going to help you.
I have seriously been through like 9 different therapists. I don’t have the patience for professional “help” anymore.
Well, you’re not going to get any useful “help” here, either.
Enough, Jesse Pinkman. If you want to bitch, get a blog. If you want to post at the SDMB, find a different topic.
I am hereby officially instructing you to stop with the self-pitying posts. We will warn you for ignoring moderator instructions if you persist. Rack up enough warnings, you earn a ban.
Your choice.
twickster, MPSIMS moderator