Try to stop thinking that you’re doing those things for other people. Be a little greedy. Do the hobbies that you enjoy for the simple fact that you enjoy them. Go to the gym (or not) because you like the way it makes you look and feel. If you’re looking for new hobbies or challenges, try something new that you’ve always thought looked fun or interesting. You have as much right as anyone else to do those things just for yourself, not because they’ll make you more worthy to someone else. Now, it’s possible to take that sort of thing too far, to be too self-centered and demanding, but it doesn’t sound like you’re there just yet.
And yes, I’m aware that that advice is much easier said than done.
I can guarantee that there are women who would find you attractive.
If serial killers on death row and the world’s fattest man can find girlfriends (which they can), then of course someone out there can be attracted to you. They may not be the women you WANT to find you attractive, but they are out there.
So, rest assured: if you want to be in a relationship and put yourself in situations where you can meet single women, eventually, it will happen.
Of course, you will probably attract a better class of women if you can project that you are happy in your life and confident in yourself. Even if it’s not true, “fake it til you make it” does seem to work in these situations.
Didn’t we just do this a couple of week ago with you? You ain’t getting any sympathy or advice from me, especially with how you ended your last “woe is me, I can’t find a woman” MPSIMS thread. Let me jog your memory from eight days ago.
This is MPSIMS so I think folks should be tempered in their scorn, but Jesse is following the script for folks in his situation on the SDMB. It’s predictable, and not likely to earn support.
Yes, I understand the reference. Yes, I get the joke.
No, it’s still not totally okay to do this, even if you’re 100 percent joking.
So joke aside, know that it’s not okay to call other posters names outside of the BBQ Pit.
“I was just joking/It’s a well-known cultural thing/line” is not a defense for insults on here.
Jesse, please don’t keep starting new threads that are all pretty much variations on the same sad sack theme. I have merged your two most recent efforts into a single thread.
Well, I used to be quite happy and have lots of hobbies. But once I realized I’m going to die alone and unloved, it’s been impossible to enjoy anything. Any enjoyment is overrun by the shitty feeling of always being alone.
So, wait, you start an entire thread based on how you hate something about yourself. Now you’re saying “oh, wait, maybe not.” I waded through all of your “Whoa is me. I can’t get any sex” thread, only to find “Oh, never mind. Just did.” on the fifth page.
Don’t you have a F’book account or somewhere you can post these things? Or what about actual human beings? Any friend or acquaintance’s opinion would be a lot more helpful than ours.