I know where you’re coming from, MeanOldLady. And it’s pretty obvious that you have personal space issues. Hell, I do too. I hated, hated, HATED sharing a double when I was in college, even though the room was easily twice the size of any of the actual dorm rooms on campus (check to see if there’s any cooperative housing near Stanford. Best experience of my life).
Still, try to approach your roommates with apositive attitude. It’s going to be hard…but if it gets bad, you can at least hide in the library instead of your room…
This makes me remember how much we complain about Californians down here in Austin. Before you jump on me, yes, I have lived in California, and one of my closest friends (bitter bastard though he is) is a Californian born and bred.
The major complaint (not a serious complaint, and we don’t go out and bash cars with California license plates, FYI) is that they come in from Cali with their corporations, get condos in downtown, and then COMPLAIN MIGHTILY because they’re living 2 blocks away from the bar district and it’s noisy at night. They’re introducing noise ordinances now, which is going to utterly kill the live music scene in town. :mad:
They also try to make Austinites wear suits. Even our business execs don’t wear suits if they can avoid it, and if they’re forced to, they won’t wear 'em in public. Trying to stuff most Austinites into a suit is like trying to walk a cat on a leash.
But the weather in the summer tends to get them in the end. Anyone used to summer days rarely exceeding 90 degrees is going to be utterly miserable in our 100+ degree mid June - early September. Sure, we Texans are sweating too, but we’re used to pain.
Definite understanding for Zen and Mean, though. The University of Texas might not be as big a name as Stanford, but the studios here go for $400 on average.
I’m on financial aid, dear. I don’t pay $35k/year, my parents don’t even make $35k/year combined. And what’s this “Go Bears” nonsense? You blasphemous blasphemer! I should pit you just for that. ::shakes fist angrily:: FWIW, it would have ended up costing me more to go to Cal than it costs me to go here. Cal’s financial aid blows. Go Cardinal.
Ninja and alice, right now I’m just hoping to Jiminy that I get replaced. If I don’t then I’ll pray for nice girls. Sure, I’ll make it, but even if they are nice, it’s still gonna be tough to not go stark ravin’ mad with all those people in my face 24/7.sigh Such is life. Sometimes it lubricates your anus while screwing you and sometimes it doesn’t.
Rysler, what am I complaining about so much? Gator? The chick whose body parts were overflowing into my seat? Tell me how big that gun is. You know, the one being pointed at your head, threatening to be fired unless you to read my threads. Yup, it sure is going to suck for my future roommates. I’m sure they complained about it to someone too. There goes that lack of lubrication again.
Aw. I was looking forward to some kind of parody thread and then it wasn’t. Pissflaps. But I suppose it stood up OK as some kind of docu-drama about the intended and unintended effects of hyperbole. So, cloud, silver lining, whatever.
For what it’s worth, I personally wouldn’t have relished sharing a bedroom with anyone when I was 20. It seems odd to me that non-romantically involved people over the age of 18 should have to sleep in the same bedroom like sisters every night. Sharing a house or a flat with friends on the other hand, I was certainly up for that. But so long as everyone’s civil to each other and doesn’t step outside the bounds of reasonable behaviour, it can be lived with. With gritted teeth and spending time in the library.
No more than it is a crime to relate one’s own experience to give an opposing viewpoint. I should have realized that unsolicited advice on a public forum is some sort of insult. I apologize for sharing my own story in your precious thread. I also apologize that my story was too long for you.
Alma, yes, you should have realized that your unsolicited advice was an insult, but you’re forgiven anyway. Heh, no but seriously, you don’t see the difference between sharing your story to let me know that you’ve been through the same thing and can sympathaize and telling me the purpose of sharing is to let me know I should “suck it up” and that I’m making other people “feel like shit”? I guess that would have been good advice if I mentioned that I planned on being a big grouch to my roommates and was lashing out left and right. Yes, I’m pissed out my living arrangement, but I have no intentions of making an already miserable living arrangement even more miserable. I was just pissed off at yet a THIRD shitty housing assignment. If my senior year sucks, I swear I’m gonna lost it (or what’s left of it, anyway).
Anywho, sorry about Veera being such a bitch. Even if she had zero regard for anyone else (and she clearly did not), at least out of selfishness you’d think she’d not be a comlete cuntmonkey in order to avoid making things more difficult for herself. You should have told her to stop being an asshole. I sure would have.
And now I have a research paper to continue. This is the third time I told myself I’d stop posting on these boards and get something done. I’m serious this time. Really. Cheers.
I grew up in Palo Alto, so I’m very familiar with how expensive it is (my family and at one point all lived in a studio b/c we couldn’t afford anything else).
I went to school at S.F. State (I didn’t have a chance in hell of getting into an Ivy, like you) and only stayed in the dorms for the first year. That was about all I could handle.
I agree with whoever brought up the possiblilty of getting an apartment in the East Bay and taking the train to school. With your student discount, it wouldn’t be that bad. Or perhaps renting a room. There are always people trying to rent them out. You’d still be living with strangers, but at least you’d have your own room. I did that when I first moved to Napa and now I have my own apartment (ahhhhhhhh).
I feel you with the people thing. I’m a people person, I love being around people, but I need my “alone time” too. I get really anxious when I don’t have it. I couldn’t imagine living in that tiny of a space with 2 other people. Living in that tiny of a space with 1 other person (in the dorms) was my own personal hell for a year.
ooh. I forgot to mention, have you looked around Mountain View? It’s a little cheaper down there, and you might find a room for rent that you could remotely afford.
I take it that you go to Stanford. Stanford is one of the best institutions in the country.
I don’t care about your problem because you will probably fall into a 100,000 dollar a year job once you leave that place. 100,000 dollars will put you in the lower middle class strata in the Bay Area, but that’s Ok, you don’t have to live there, and you can live like a swearing goddess in most other parts of the country.
FTR, Stanford is not an Ivy. But yeah, at the beginning of the school year my best friend and I decided that we weren’t to keen on our living situations and tried to find an apt off campus in a nearby town. Bwahahaha! That didn’t go over too well. Cheaper than Shallow Alto, sure, but still waaaaaaay too much for us. No more of this off campus business for me. Now my plan is to pray to Og that I get reassigned. Even if I don’t, I’m gettin’ the fuck outta dodge and am going to spend 2 quarters abroad anyway. That’s still 1 quarter of living like that, but 1 is a heck of a lot better than all 3. Man, just the thought of sharing that little space with that many people ::twitches:: is driving me mad.
I just thought I’d add my half a cent here…
GET. A. FUCKING. HELMET.
Or get some lithium or something. Maybe take up residence on the lawn at school or something, but don’t be such a downer to everyone else’s life just because youe “hate everyone, hate people, hate this, hate that”.
MOL, do you have any idea what impact words can have…especially on a messageboard? While you are jumping up and down saying that people are misinterpreting you and taking you too seriously, your OP left little doubt in many minds that you are pretty disturbing individual. When a person says that there are only three (3) people in the world that they deign to give the time of day to, it raises some interesting questions about the mind of that person.
Yeah, yeah, we now know that you were just venting, and that you are pissed-off about having to share a room with two others. I too would be pretty anxious about such a prospect. I’ve done my time of shared-housing (both in my single days, and later with kids) and it ain’t always pleasant. Mostly it is downright shitty. Nobody is denying that.
But the tone of your OP (and your later posts as well) seems to suggest that you are more than just a bit pissed-off. You made it very clear that it is the rest of the world that is to blame for your anti-social attitudes. Noooooo…there isn’t anything wrong with YOU…it’s the arseholes that you have to share the planet with who are screwing everything up.
I’m not saying you have to like sharing, but as you have pointed out, it is your only option at the moment. Given that, I suggest you get some counselling to try to come to an understanding of why you feel that the world (and it’s 5 billion minus 3 inhabitants) are so ‘disgusting’. It might help you in the future when you have to deal with situations involving close human contact.
Hey, I’m with you, MOL I really don’t like people all that much myself, and I think the reason for that is I was forced to spend 6 semesters in a college dorm room with 3 roomates and one bathroom. I think that developed a general dislike of people in general. Don’t get me wrong–I have a great circle of friends, and a huge family full of eccentric and fun people, but dealing with “everyday” people is something I definitely do not enjoy.
I understand where you’re coming from, people can definitely suck, and living with them is not fun.
I can understand from where MOL’s coming. While I wouldn’t say I dislike people, I generally prefer to be alone. When one’s living in a dorm with roommates, you are virtually always in a social situation. That prospect made me sick to my stomach when I was in college. I am not arrogant or asocial. I’m actually quite friendly, yet somewhat reserved in real life. I have friends I hang out with on occasion. I am not “antisocial” which is term that best descibes the personality of people like Tim McVeigh nor is my desire “pathological” in anyway. The OP was distressed and used some colorful hyberbole. Give her a break.
Yup, it sure is going to suck for my future roommates. I’m sure they complained about it to someone too. There goes that lack of lubrication again.