My first apartment, me and one of my dorm roommates wanted an apartment. We went to a private school that had some crazy rules and we wanted more freedom. At the time, I had no car and we worked together in a god-awful telemarketing company. We had this unspoken contract that I did all the housework if she would shuttle me around. This girl was a total slob by-the-way, she left dirty feminine products laying around and it was nothing to her to let mold grow on food. Yeah, gross I know, but I dealt with it because she was helping me.
So about 3 months into our lease, I landed my first job in my career and it was literraly two blocks from our telemarketing job. I told her I would work out my schedule to where she could drop me off and pick me up according to her schedule. During the same time, I had something tragic happen and I was going through a hard time. She decided she didn’t want to carpool with me because she was upset that I was leaving her alone in that job. I offered to pay half the car payment, half the insurance, and half the gas in the car. What do you want me to do? My career is more important than you feeling “alone”.
So I was forced to make a hard decision. She knew my situation and refused to help me, so I moved out. We battled with the leasing office, I wanted to break the lease, she didn’t. She wanted to punish me. So I kept paying my half of the rent.
About a month or so later, I went back to the apartment (since I was paying rent, I kept my key) to get the remainder of my personal belongings. Some other girl was sleeping in my bed, using my stuff. I had my mother with me and we both went into my room and woke the girl up. I told her I was taking my stuff. I asked her what was going on and why she was there. She told me my ex-roommate had moved her and another girl in. I asked if they were paying rent and utilities. She said no. I went through the roof. I told her “do you know I’m paying for you to live here?”.
I headed straight down to the leasing office and told them my ex-roommate had illegally moved someone in and I was refusing to pay another dime in rent. She got evicted, and although it ended up on both our credit reports, I didn’t care at the time and knowing she got punished for it made it all worth it.
Another one of my roommates, I loved to death. She had her 3 year old living with us and I helped her take care of him. We went through most of the year fine, until she met her (now) husband. He hated me for some unknown reason and made sure he drove a wedge between us, and she let him walk all over me. It went from I was the maid of honor in their weddding to he doesn’t even want me there. He tried to ruin my life and I will never forgive my old friend for letting him do that to me. She still tries to contact me, but I have no use for her.
Moral of the story: women don’t make good roommates. Except for my childhood best friend (who is more like my sister anyways), I have always walked away from leases hating my roommate. I hate living with women.
Good luck, I hope you get this resolved soon.