There are at least 3 Dopers in Eugene – is that a quorum? moejoe be sure to spend time at the library. I am the only male staff member of Youth Services, so if you swing by the children’s department, the he would be me.
If you are having trouble meeting people and making connections, try volunteering at any of the numerous… organizations that need volunteers, EPL included.
Moejoe, what you need in order to open an account at the library is picture ID and proof of residency. If your current ID still has your old address, bring a piece of mail (electric bill) less than a month old - a lease, or an envelope postmarked within the last 2 weeks addressed to you. Our library is wonderful, by the way. I work all over the place, In Youth Services, Circulation and Cards and Accounts where you would open your account. PM if you’d like to get together. See there, you are making connections already!
The library it is! Also volunteering is a great idea, will look into that.
Here’s another question: my neighbor spends most of her time on the balcony yammering loudly into her cell phone and it’s making me crazy. Seriously, last night at 2AM it was drunken cell yelling and again this morning I’m getting the loud, hung over “what did I say last night?” I’ve noticed that people are very polite here and I don’t want to start anything with her so I’m guessing I can’t go all Oakland Girl on her. Is there a secret Eugene code for STFU?
Please, you are in Oregon now; let’s try to be politically correct. You have the Jewish-American Jeebies.
I accepted a long time ago the person I have become. So I don’t mind telling y’all, I gigglesnorted at this. ^
Well, people are polite, but also inconsiderate jerks, like your upstairs neighbor, and they are also very protective of their “rights,” like the right to not be annoyed by your stupid neighbor yammering on the phone. You could ask her politely to keep it down, but my prefered technique is to go completely bat-shit psychotic raving mad and scream obscenities and threaten violence. It’s all an act of course, but it’s a ***very effective ***act.
I’d make a few mental notes about the calls, then make a point of bringing it up to her in a casual way… like, bump into her at the mailbox and start up conversation about “wow, how did it work out with xxxx and I think you should xxx” – like she was intentionally including you in the conversation. I bet if you do that once or twice, she’ll think twice about standing outside broadcasting her personal life to the world at 2am.
These are both good ideas. I was thinking I might go completely passive aggressive and just tell her to let me know if I’m ever too loud, maybe if I ask often enough she’ll get it.