I’m sorry that you went through this - it must be a very deep sadness. Sending out supporting thoughts.
Before I give this thread a rest I’ll just say that I am so happy my wife isn’t holding this against me and is understanding. That helps.
Well, now it’s really time to give this thread a rest for a few hours. Thanks again for the support.
Have you considered getting an older cat? I adopted both my cats when they were fully grown (about 1 yr old) and they are fantastic. The neat thing is that they had their personalities at that point so I had a good idea of what they will be like when I got them home. Shelters are filled with adult cats who need a loving home.
I am so sorry about this. I got rid of a recliner because I was terrified of this exact same thing happening.
(((HUGS)))
I’ve accidentally killed a kitten before. It really sucks.
I’m so sorry.
Some of those chairs are really hard to get under unless you lift them up. Nobody, this could have happened to anyone. I’m so sorry it happened to you. That kitten had a lot of love, and no one can blame you for this.
So sorry to hear that. Cats seem to love to get into mobile chairs and stuff. I had a fold away couch and my cat (adult full grown) loved to get in there. We had to make sure every time we folded it up, that the cat wasn’t underneath it.
I think it’s just something for the future to remember. I know you don’t want to rush out and get another cat but remember lots of cats and dogs are waiting for homes.
Thanks, but like I said, I’m waiting for my wife to want a new cat. I’ll give it a week or two before bringing it up to her.
Aww, Nobody, that’s terrible. We had a kitten when I was little who was also killed accidentally; I remember how sad I felt losing him like that. Hugs to all of you.
Very, very sad. I’m sorry to hear it.
I didn’t see our small kitten & got its leg caught in a recliner chair. The screams were awful - & over a year later she still doesn’t like me.
One of her brothers was killed when its owners accidentally dropped a ladder on it.
This was our first time with a small kitten. I’m not sure if its our last, but there are a few things that we will do differently next time.
& I would wait at least 3 months before getting a replacement. Give yourself time to grieve.
For some reason the kitten would sneeze a few times every now and then, now our other cat is sneezing.
I felt tired so I laid down earlier. Every time I closed my eyes I kept thinking about Jamie (the kitten).
When my wife’s old cat died I wasn’t that sad. When our dog died a few months ago I didn’t feel that sad. But Jamie…I guess it’s because it’s my fault. And I was REALLY starting to get attached to him. When I’d be on my computer typing he’d like to climb on me and I’d lean back and he’d lay on my chest and I’d hold him and pet him and he’d purr so hard. I can’t sit in the recliner now. Yeah yeah, I’ll get over it, but damn, this is the first pet whose death has really affected me like this in a long time.
Sorry man, that’s rough. Condolences.
It was an accident and I’m sorry. Perhaps adopt a grown cat? They are bigger and easier to spot.
Or an older kitten.
One of Kathey’s (my wife) care-givers was mentioning that someone in her family had some kittens and had to get rid of them. I wanted to get my wife another pet to replace Jimmy (our dog who died not to long ago), and I was hoping that we could train Jamie to snuggle with Kathey. Our other cat never really goes to her for attention, our dog only goes over if she thinks there will be food, and my mother’s cat is a scaredy cat who still seems to nervous to go over to my wife. I figured a kitten could be trained to go to my wife for lots of loving and affection because of course my wife isn’t too happy that the other animals don’t seem to want to have a lot to do with her.
Unfortunately the kitten latched on to me. It would follow me from room to room, and like I said, a lot of times when I was on the computer it would want to climb on me and have me hold him and love him.
I think next time I’ll need to see about getting a cat I know will be a lap cat.
I’m so sorry, Nobody. I send you my most sincere condolences.
I was present for an accidental cat death, and it was almost surreal. Unfortunately the “curiosity killed the cat” saying is based on actual occurences.
As other have said, adopt another cat when it’s right for you.
You didn’t intentionally kill the cat, it was an accident. Accidents are an unfortunate part of life.
You didn’t kill the cat, it was killed by the chair. Blaming anything on anyone in this circumstance is both pointless, and ill-advised. It’s ok to feel bad about what happened, but don’t carry a burden to the point of it impacting your mental well-being.
On the positive side, there is most certainly a cat or kitten that is in need of a loving home, and when it’s right for you, you can provide it. The past is done, you can only hope to change your future.
My condolences, and I wish you well in the near future.
So when I saw this thread title, I thought it was some sort of joke, or wild hyperbole. Now that I’ve read it, it’s um… well, it’s sad. That fucking sucks, and I’m very sorry. Be well.
So sorry for your loss.
When you’re up to getting another cat, you might see about spritzing a scent repellent under the lift chair on a regular basis. This works for my folks and their small dog.
Very sorry to hear this. I feel so bad for you and your wife. It’s not like you meant to cause any harm, so try not to blame yourself. At least you did give the kitten a lot of love during the time he was alive, which is more than a lot of alley cats get. I hope that in time you guys can get another cat. Older cats at shelters often get overlooked, but they’re not as fragile as the little guys are, so it might be a good idea to try to find a friendly older cat next time.
Thank you everyone, I appreciate the replies. And there’s lots of good advice too.