Oh yeah? At least I wasn’t dumb enough to get married before learning what I want from a life partner!
Oops, my bad. I thought you were talking to me.
You guys are going to get divorced eventually. May as well do it sooner rather than later.
I think you two are finished. Get a divorce.
It’s a bad enough sign in any relationship when you start feeling like every little idiosyncrasy about your partner is extremely irritating, but I read somewhere that you’ve pretty much reached past the point of no return when you begin treating your partner with contempt.
Now, I don’t mean that pejoratively; I doubt you have any malicious intent, and I do think a lot of posters here are being unfair to you. A lot of people marry the wrong person for whatever reason. But you really don’t seem to respect her, and that’s not going to get any better.
I find myself wondering whether the children are boys or girls and what their parents, wittingly or not, are teaching them to think about themselves and their own abilities.
I don’t really see this as being about her intelligence at all.
You know how when you really dislike someone, everything they do annoys you? I think this is what the problem is. They are decidedly growing apart and he’s looking for reasons to feel better about leaving?
A lot seem to be siding with her but I’m not so sure. A mother of two that still likes to party?
My parents were like this. My dad is book smart but mom is very life smart. They are completely different. It took 40 years to divorce. Looking back as an adult, I think everyone would have been much happier had they divorced. Mom agrees with me.
The last bit of advice I can offer is this. If you really are unhappy, deal with this problem NOW. It’s still fixable. If you don’t, the gulf between you widens and that is the prime set up for an affair. It might be the case that you decide to stay for the kids but she is the one to leave you.
A friend of mine who went through couples counseling told me that the therapist told them that any relationship where there is still respect can be repaired, but without respect it’s a lost cause. I don’t know if the OP’s marriage is doomed or isn’t. I hope for his kids that they get the best care their parents can give them whether it’s together or separately.
Very early in my SDMB experience I posted a very whiny, self-serving, negative post about the relationship I was in at the time. I took similar heat to what the OP is getting and it got me thinking and turned into positive things for that relationship. I wish the OP and his wife (especially his wife) well.
Guess what, you are mistaken. There are some genuine idiots in this world, but they are few and far between, you should not look at people in terms of how society rates what they know or how marketable their abilities are. For one thing, your wife may be better with people than you are, that is a valuable thing. Try to look for the things she is good at, learn to appreciate whatever she does better than you rather than despair at how she is not like you.
It sounds like she may be the smarter one between the two of you…my other thought is you need to get over yourself like another poster mentioned.
I agree with AU here*
*OMG, I can’t believe I said that 
I tend to agree.
I got very lucky to get a husband who is within a couple degrees intelligence of myself, was military [compared to my being an army brat and having an absentee father much of the time so I learned to deal with an odd household structure] and his MOS of machinists mate/auxiliaryman being similar to my original professions [inside/outside mechanic and nuke valve mechanic] with a similar interest in SF/fantasy, gaming and history.
The OP needs to either get his wife into school and an enrichment program, or divorce her and find someone else. I do not see this being a happy situation at all for her or the kids.
I don’t agree at all. Being annoyed by your SO isn’t a sign of imminent doom. There are days when I am completely annoyed by every little thing my husband does, but that is my fault not his. I recognize later that I am being picky, irritable, and impatient. The next day I realize how great I have it and how wonderful he really is. I think the OP was just venting and doesn’t think this about his wife constantly.
when we were first married I hung out with an ex alone and watched a movie in his room, and came on to another at a bar. I made huge mistakes, admitted all to my husband, and recognized my failings were just as great as his. We all have issues, we all make mistakes, and we all have room for improvement and no realtionship is doomed if we want to work at it and out the effort into staying together. Maybe the OP needs to make a list of how he falls short of perfection and realize how lucky he is to have his wife.
I highly recommend therapy, either for you alone or both of you together. If you’re a full-time student, does your university have a student med center? They can likely treat you for free or cheap. A therapist can be useful to help you clear your thoughts, and see if you’re really fundamentally incompatible with your wife, or just need some relationship repair.
DH and I have been going through a rough patch for the last couple of years and therapy has helped immensely, to the point that we just had our last appointment for the foreseeable future. 
+1
And to the OP, joining a message board to bitch about how much smarter you are than your wife is a dick move.
a person can have a lot of knowledge about a specific area, they have some intelligence about a bit of something. that doesn’t necessarily mean they are smart.
Encourage her to find another lover - one that’s also as “stupid” as she is.
Once they click, she can divorce your ass and you can go out and join Mensa
Yeah, your wife is just too damn stupid. That’s it. Obviously, you must be very intelligent, caring, and generally fun to be around, considering your an electrical engineer. You deserve better.
I would say that anybody who gives up on a relationship due to the other’s failings, without taking responsibility for their own, is running from the wrong person.
Kiss her silly vacant head and just bask in the warm glow of knowing you’re the cream of the crop when it comes to humanity, maybe?
im afraid we have offended our resident genius…
“When I was a young man, I vowed never to marry until I found the ideal woman. Well, I found her, but unfortunately, she was waiting for the perfect man.”
–Robert Schuman