I Pit my dad for unironically pointing out that he retired at 50, and that at 36, I've never worked

Well, for one thing, when etv wrote a thread about his recent return to college, he seemed to admit that it was his own actions that got him kicked out of university in the past:

How in the hell that could be his dads fault, I just don’t know. That aside, I find it weird that even though he himself only seems to blame his terrible parents for his failings - he has never said anything about his disability stopping him from finishing college sometime in the 18 years he has had available - the white knights of the boards immediately want to come in and pat him on the head and yell at everyone else that it’s not fair to expect the disabled to have any ambitions at all, don’t you know everyone is prejudiced against them?

Would this be the reaction to any other 36 year old who complained that their dad wasn’t personally planning and funding their university education? I don’t think so. It seems pretty condescending to me that he gets a special response, like a slightly whiny child would, but maybe that’s how he wants it.