Well, that’s my point(but I didn’t express myself well). That new nurse should turn to her colleagues or administration to ask for guidance–not post on a message board, trolling for petite blonde sympathy. In this case, the aggressor is a child, which if anything, heightens the inequality of the power structure as well as it changes the outcomes striven for.
In the case of the nurse, it is usually an adult trying to harm the nurse. Neither child or adult matters a damn, really, since we are taught in nursing school that the patient is to be treated with respect and dignity at all times, no matter what the pt may be attempting to do to the nurse etc.
There is just some stuff that we (nurses) don’t talk about with lay people. Just as teacher wouldn’t say to a group of people who may or may not have ties to her school that she has a bunch of dolts or premature juvenile deliquents this year. Some lines should not be crossed. She has every right to her feelings, just not the right to expect public sympathy for them.
By no means do I want to sentimentalize this kid or what he did, but seems to me that the victim bit doesn’t wash, at least not in public. Bitch to the other teachers in the staff lounge, cry on husband’s shoulder, but in that classroom (and in public, since she is the representative of her school and her profession here), she must needs to stay in control: calm, cool, collected. I didn’t see that here. I am glad her AP resolved this (if it was indeed the AP who did)–it seems a good solution for all.
I have no issues with her, and I wish her all the luck in the world in teaching, but IMO, she needs to grow up a bit and realize that it’s a hard, cruel world, and in an unequal relationship such as teaching, judgement will be occasionally harsh and often unyielding. It is damned hard to learn that lesson, but IMO it’s better for all if it is learned. No one wants a nurse who talks trash about her pts; no one wants as a teacher someone who regards her pupils as problems. Hope this explains things.
