Can I have this as a sig? It’s mucho classico. 
I don’t know that I was ever particularly attracted to a man who was in need of a relationship. What attracted me was someone who enjoyed my company, certainly, but also knew how to enjoy his own company and that of other friends or groups of friends.
If you are 33 and still don’t hold some measure of self-respect and comfort with being in your own skin, you might want to spend some time on finding yourself rather than finding her.
I don’t mean to sound flippant or uncaring at all. I’ve been in your shoes – or at least I was for most of my 20’s. Travel abroad helped more than anything. It might be something else for you.
In retrospect I found that what I was lacking in my twenties was a genuine interest in others. I was more concerned in what they were feeling for me. I also thought that I was not particularly attractive. The was an illusion caused by my lack of confidence. (Now that I’m old and creaky I am allowed to be immodest.)
Men also have the advantage of looking more attractive with a little age.
For the next two or three years, practice letting go of the need to be anything but in a wholesome relationship with yourself. There is plenty of time for life wildest rides on the Great Carousel. You ain’t seen nuthin’ yet. 
Sorry that some of you are hurting.
In my humble words,
‘Read the Ladder theory read the Ladder theory read the Ladder theory’
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html