Because you have continued to hound MizGrand. I don’t know why but I think it’s because you’ve turned into a floppy, dripping, and diseased cunt.
No, I’m getting the impression you’ve decided you LIKE having her around to kick. Some people people are like that. They are the jerks we are admonished to not be.
Probably a little of each, actually. But yeah, different details for different communities.
And the topic of discussion was what defines a community, and if this forum falls under that definition. I am part of many communities, but the one most often thought of such is the one made up of people with whom I share local elections, local restaurants, and air. My physical neighbors, in other words. There are things about myself that I would absolutely not share with them, but I might tell my friends, or might share here, or possibly only tell someone I’m intimate with.
Using your definition of community, then, this board is far more of one than my neighborhood is.
I think you’re wrong about "continuing to hound,"dropzone. I would have to hound in the first place to continue to hound. Continuing to hound would have been opening a thread about the same topic as the two original, locked threads. This was a thread about a new behaviour to which I took offense - the evasive name-change. You could say I continued to keep her name and behaviours in the public eye here when it probably would have been better to let it fade away, and that would be a fair criticism.
I think we’ve pretty much established that someone lying and manipulating on a message board doesn’t actually hurt anyone, much as we don’t like it here, so how does my opening a thread about a behaviour I found repugnant actually hurt someone? Is it the same kind of hurt caused by calling someone names on a message board?
I’m not being disingenuous here - I will willingly admit that this thread was opened in an anger that I don’t feel any longer and regret acting on, and it didn’t make the situation any better, but how is it actually hurting someone?
You did start a new thread letting everyone know about the name change in case they missed it and practically asked everyone to shun her. There were three thread that were closed when you did this. So you didn’t exactly let it drop.
Nah, too easy. Better to have 6 threads attacking someone who’s either a nutjob or someone with serious mental/emotional problems. That’s what makes me feel good about myself.
Not everyone’s neighborhood is a community. To be honest, mine isn’t either. Some people keep to themselves.
Yet when someone mentions “your local community”, you know exactly what they mean, right? It all depends on how one defines the word, I guess, and your definition and mine obviously differ.
Let me ask you this: I don’t know everyone in my apartment building, but I know a handful. I know person (formerly) intimately. I’ve had conversations of varying lengths with everyone on my floor. A person on the floor above me sends me (and others) regular e-mails. I’ve had extensive conversations with a woman downstairs about music, and everytime I see her she asks me how my music is coming along. I know the names of five pets in the building. A man once offered friendship because we have a common (historical) interest. Many of us have gathered at local venues for the purpose of banding together to fight changes in the neighborhood.
And with all that, I’m one of the more antisocial people in the building. Many have been living there for 30, 40, even 50 years, and would do anything for each other. My ex even once resued an elderly woman from a fall, and it could be fairly said she saved her life.
Is my building a community?
Wow, I wish I were so fucking pure that I’d never done anything to deserve scorn and could shout “BAN! BAN!” because some chick is diddling around on her husband.
I have nothing personally against the OP and don’t even know him/her, but holy shit, that is some ridiculous crap they’re spewing. Ban? I hope if you ever find yourself in a fucked up place by your own doing or through illness of whatever you aren’t thrown out of YOUR community for it.
I’m not even a christian and I still believe in “judge not”. You act like she cut of her kid’s heads and fed them to her husband. Get some fucking perspective!
Note what Caridwen said. It was wrong of you to start this thread for the reasons you gave.
Yes, it would’ve been MUCH better for you to do that. Instead, you made her name change YET ANOTHER issue where there wasn’t one before. Changing ones name, which can only be done by an admin who agrees that it’s a good idea, is usually a good way to start over because MOST people here don’t invest so much of ourselves in this board to remember a single user’s behavior AND her name, much less her previous name.
(scratching my head in bewilderment that you are that dense) Because you stomped up and down like a rotten brat to make sure that EVERYBODY knew that she was “lying and manipulative,” though apparently not enough so to bother the mods. You find her offensive? Fine. Ignore her and don’t demand she be punished. Quietly and to yourself forgive her for offending you, though she may not have asked your forgiveness or even think she did anything she should be forgiven for.
The thing to do when you calm down is to email a mod to close the thread. They probably won’t right away, if they see you could still benefit from some petard hoisting, but it’s the procedure. As for the hurt, are you really so self-centered that you cannot see that your words and actions can cause somebody else pain?
After reading the latest train wreck thread, and the other one about someone being nervous about attending a Doperfest, and finally this one, I just have to say… wow.
Just…wow.
Thank you.
I haven’t asked for this thread to be closed because I didn’t want to be a chicken-shit for wanting my thread closed as soon as it turned on me, but if the mods think this one is done, go ahead and axe it.
And, even though I’m a vindictive man, I believe we’ve slapped you around enough. 
Sorry, I have no interest in reading, let alone responding, to your little anal-retentive semantics-fest.
Huh? Semantics-fest? Anal-retentive? We were having what I thought was a friendly and civil discussion, and up until now one that I was rather enjoying. I was under the impression that you were enjoying it too. Why did you suddenly choose this moment to become a jerk?
Perhaps because featherlou and I have started to play nice and he felt a vacuum in the thread.
Sounds like a nice building. I’d say my block was the same sort of COMMUNITY except I’m a sociopathic asshole and know the names very nearly nobody on it.
Perhaps. Nature abhors a Hoover.
It feels like community to me. Especially when we all came together to fight the asshole developer next door. And it is a nice building. It’s common knowledge that the only way people in the 2 bedroom units are going to move out is in a pine box.
Oh fine. If there’s no one else around to lynch, I move we disperse the mob.
Or we could find a new target.
(throws a rock at SA)
That felt GOOD! And, y’know, I haven’t thrown one at you for months.
You’ve been reading Miller’s thread, haven’t you?