I don’t know, but he doesn’t seem that bad at all. I mean, he’s only 26. You don’t mention him asking you for money, or borrowing money and not paying it back, or getting in any real trouble, or scamming people, etc. All characteristics of a true lay about.
If not being sure what you are passionate about is a huge character flaw the 90% of the twenty somethings I know are this guy.
I also don’t understand the ‘aimlessly’ part of the whole thing. Seems like he’s had plenty of ‘aims’ and just changed directions once or twice. Again, that fits the vast majority of the people I know who are under 40.
He’s not that bad, like I said, I really like the guy. But at 26 you’ve gotta be able to pay the bills, especially since he refuses to live at home (that has not gone well) and he’s now married with, for all I know, unprotected sperms swimming around everywhere.
See, the problem is that when he prays for guidance, he doesn’t expect God to tell him to grind away at some menial job for a few years so he can pay rent while he figures all this stuff out. God tells him that he’s got Big Plans for him, because God has Big Plans for us all. That’s my problem. He doesn’t hear what he needs to hear because he’s taking guidance from himself, which Amateur Barbarian nailed in post #3.
What bills isn’t he paying and who is paying them for him?
Grinding away at a menial job sucks and the fact that he doesn’t want to do that is a surprise?
What does he ‘need to hear’? He’s not a twice relapsed crack head who is starving his kids for his habit and selling himself at night. He sounds like a kid in his mid twenties. The god stuff is weird but so what?
I’m not going to go into his whole life story, but suffice it to say that other people have been funding his lifestyle for a number of years. He racks up debt and then various friends and family members bail him out. Over and over.
:eek: <- That’s my surprised face.
<- That’s the face I make when talking about this guy with my family.
See the difference?
eta: I’m not one to generalize about how “kids these days” are spoiled, entitled, and mooch of their parents because they’re unwilling to do hard work and all the other bullshit stereotypes that people throw around about millenials. But that doesn’t mean that we need to give people a free pass. Someone who’s 26 should either be able to support themselves or have a good reason why they’re not; I don’t think that’s a controversial opinion, but maybe I’m wrong.
<- That’s the face I make when talking about this guy with my family.