You know, when they say
“So-and-so has sent you an invite to play a game!”
And then you have to install an application.
Or what about friend requests? If I ignore someone’s friend requests do they get word?
I just don’t want any applications at all. And I want to pick and choose my friends, but I don’t need to be rude.
I don’t think they do.
No. When you ignore a friend or application request, it does NOT notify the sender.
They don’t receive any notification that you’ve ignored the request.
If they look for you on their friends list or in the game and don’t see you then they’ll know you didn’t accept, of course. But for applications at least I don’t think you should worry. A lot of the applications provide points or in-game incentives if you invite others to join, so it’s likely that your friends were sending you invitations for that reason and not because they were really desperate to have you join the game.
Oh, thank you. I don’t want to play any silly games! I generally ignore my facebook anyway.
I know I’ve been ignored by a couple of people I’ve friended on facebook. I can tell by searching for them a few days later and seeing if “Add as friend” is still an option. It doesn’t bother me. I figure that person probably tries to keep their facebook friend list short or may post some personal information on there that they don’t want me to know.
I ignore most applications as well. I don’t think it bothers anyone.
Good to know. I have a lot of friends that apparently live and breathe Facebook by all of the stupid invitations and water balloons and nonsense stuff. I ignore them all.
This is exactly why I don’t do Facebook. It’s at least one major reason. If someone asks to be my freind and they don’t get a reply they likely know I turned them down. I want to keep my list short. I also want to keep my freinds in categories so that “freind from highschool” doesn’t even know that “freind from gradschool” exists and “freind from work” is someplace else entirely.
My best friend in elementary school suggested that I might like to be friends with his little brother (I’m 42). I accepted the friend request from my BF from elementary school because we were safety patrols together and once you’ve been through that kind of hell with someone you are friends for life. But what am I supposed to say to his little brother? “Hey do you still eat worms?”
I’ve BEEN ignored a few times. No message is sent directly to me. I just figure out on my own, after X amount of time has gone by, that So-and-so probably doesn’t want to be my “friend” any more.
It’s like leaving a message on a girl’s answering machine, asking for a date. The answering machine won’t call you back to say, “Forget it! Not if you were the last man on Earth,” but you get the idea if she hasn’t called back after a few weeks.
Unless you’re a stalker (and I’m not), you shrug, express a little disappointment, and move on.
Do they show up in the “people you might know” spot over and over like some people do that I’ve just ignored even clicking the X on?
Because that would be a dead giveaway to the many people from my elementary school/middle school that I only vaguely remember the names of but get random requests for here and there.
If they don’t, cool. If they do see that over and over I still don’t care… But it could lead to some annoyance if they keep on seeing, effectively, “Clayton doesn’t like you”.
I mean… Really… I was in 8th grade the last time I saw you and we NEVER talked. Not that I remember a hell of a lot from that period of time… I was, what… 12? But I might’ve clicked yes if we ever did any of the following… Sat at the same lunch table… Had lots of mutual friends, hell… Even if we lived down the street… But I knew you for like 2 years like 13 years ago?
As an aside, Facebook allows you to create list of friends. Is it possible to put one list as "Yes, those are really my friends and one list as “Those are people I just want to be in touch with”, that sort of categories?
That very well may be true, but it also might be that the person doesn’t visit as often as you do. I can’t visit Facebook at work, but I work at home on Mondays, so if I’m going to do any of that stuff, it’s going to be on Monday. I don’t really care that much for the “water balloon, good karma, snowball” stuff, though if somebody sends me one I will send one back to be friendly. But it usually waits a week to happen.
OTOH, somebody invited me to join a Mafia game, which I have ignored for several weeks because that requires regular daily attention. I can’t participate.
Not that that comment would be at all out of place on Facebook …
If you decide you need to defriend someone, you can do that and it also does not send them any notification that they have been defriended. Of course, if they go looking for you, you will no longer be in their friend list.
Well, the people who are on my list (for the most part) know that I couldn’t possibly care less for all the stupid little applications, so they know I won’t click on them, but I don’t care if they use me as a random invitation so they can continue playing. I have about 300 ignored requests right now, and 4 friend requests that I am basically ignoring. Well, I am only actually ignoring 3 of them, one of them intrigues me because we apparently went to school together, but I think I’d remember such a unique name. Since the guy is 2 years younger than I am, it may just be that he remembers me (I kinda stood out) although we never actually met. But since I am pretty picky with my Fb friend list, I haven’t decided if I am going to add him or not.
The other 3 don’t know that I am ignoring their requests. One of them just can’t figure out why I am not showing up on her list and she can’t send me another request. 
I have no idea, either. Yeah, sometimes it’s easier to just act clueless.
I defriended a former high school classmate who was posting ignorant and inflammatory status updates during the election. Four months later he tried to add me as a friend again. I think he must not remember adding me the first time. We were never friends in high school anyway, he’s just one of those facebook friend whores. Hope he goes away for good now.
I’m doing the same with a couple people (I did have one person ask me to be friended twice–she got the hint it seems at least). The names are familiar and we have mutual friends–I just can’t place them. Neither my high school nor college were big, so I’m kinda surprised I don’t remember them.
Same here and I appreciate the question because I wondered the same thing. I would hate to think friends are getting a message like “Foxy is choosing to decline your invitation to be her friend because she never particularly liked you in the first place.”
You can make a list and call it whatever you want and put whoever out of the people you’ve “friended” on Facebook on it.
You can adjust your privacy settings so that different parts of your profile are visible to different lists. You can also do this with individual photo albums. So if you have crazy photos from college on there you could set the album to only be visible to your “Real Friends” list, or set it to be visible to everyone but your “Work Friends” list.
Fine. But if you continue to ignore me, I’ll throw a sheep at you.
Harrumph.