I dunno. I’ve always said “If I don’t post for one week, assume I’m really, really sick. Two weeks, assume I’m dead.” I think that works pretty well. Except what if I go on vacation and forget to tell you people about, then I come back to post and you all thought I was dead, 'cept I’m really not… Hmmm…
Probably Caldazar. But he never calls me anymore. I mean, I call him and stuff, but I can’t do that if I’m dead (obviously). Maybe Ad Noctum, but I don’t remember if he has my number or not. I think he maybe has it off caller ID from when I called him. Who knows? Anyway, I like the one week/two week thing, so we’ll go with that.
I have thought about what I’d do if I were really sick. I would ask my husband to post to let you guys know. As far as if there were something sudden and I died, well, I just opened this thread and then asked my husband:
Me: Honey, if something happened to me and I died suddenly, would you think to let the people at the message board know about it?
Mr. Jeannie: Well, now I would.
So, there we go. Arrangements have been made.
Yea, though realistically it might take a few days before I picked up on it.
I know Medea’s Child would reciprocate if she could, except I don’t think she knows anyone specific who could confirm it. (Maybe I should provide you with someone, hmm?) Hell, if I were to drop dead Friday evening, it’s unlikely anyone would seriously take notice until Sunday night or Monday morning, and even then the family or folks at work might not assume the worst for a day or two.
As far as I know, I’m the only active SDMB poster in New Zealand. When I go, it’ll be just a lonely light suddenly snuffed.
I’ve told my best friend the Jackal a lot about this board (yes, she does exist. That’s her nickname). If I was really sick and in hospital, I might ask her to use the 'puter here to post a message, but then again I probably wouldn’t.
And if I snuffed it – hopefully, she’d let you guys know. She’ll inherit the computer, anyway (she’s my heir) so, maybe one day Ice Wolf would be replaced by the Jackal.
'Course, despite some words I utter to the contrary, I don’t think I’ll be headed for the Great Den in the sky just yet.
After I read this I decided to add a note that in the case of my death to notify people in my webtv address book. There are some non-Dopers in there who I only communicate with via email.
As for what Dopers would notice first,there’s only two Dopers who have my home and cell phone numbers. One I’m no longer speaking to (and if you’re reading this and you know who you are-I’m still angry. How dare you assume that.BTW he’s ten times the man you’ll ever be.)
The other Doper would notice when I didn’t call him,call my phone and find out that way.
My secret is still safe. . .
Now if I can just find a better place for that .38 Special instead of my nightstand, and take that hot cup of cafe mocha from out of my crotch when I drive.
Tripler
Because my job isn’t dangerous enough for me.
The only way you guys would hear is if someone went through my addressbook (email or otherwise) and they’d find ricepad’s name and address in there. If they sent him a death notice, then I s’pose he might put it here.
A related question is whether you were post details of a personal tragedy here. We talked about this on my moms list, and one of the moms said that if something awful happened to her son, she’d just sign off and not say a word. She said she couldn’t bear to have a bunch of people who had never met her posting sympathy messages, etc.
I’m a private person (you’d never know it, I realize, given my postings here) and I don’t know what I’d do re: the SDMB. I guess my main worry is that it would look like a big ploy for sympathy. Or would look, I dunno, sort of exhibitionist: “Look at this tragedy in my life! Call Fox News and post it on SDMB!” But the comfort I’d anticipate from people expressing their sympathy might be enough to assuage those fears. It’d be different, perhaps, if I was more of a presence here, had more posts, had a big fan club. Then I’d probably rush here to talk about it.
Quite likely very few people I call friends would ever know if I passed away. I’ve thought about this a few times before, and I always get extremely sad when I think of just dropping out of the lives of the people I care about without any explanation… damn internet friendships.
You guys might hear of it though… a friend at work lurks a bit (or did anyway) at another forum I post at, and he might think to post there if I passed on, but I have my doubts. And then if he did, my two closest friends would read it there, and one of them posts here and the other lurks here occaisionally, so they might think to post it here.
Quite likely very few people I call friends would ever know if I passed away. I’ve thought about this a few times before, and I always get extremely sad when I think of just dropping out of the lives of the people I care about without any explanation… damn internet friendships.
You guys might hear of it though… a friend at work lurks a bit (or did anyway) at another forum I post at, and he might think to post there if I passed on, but I have my doubts. And then if he did, my two closest friends would read it there, and one of them posts here and the other lurks here occaisionally, so they might think to post it here.
Quite likely very few people I call friends would ever know if I passed away. I’ve thought about this a few times before, and I always get extremely sad when I think of just dropping out of the lives of the people I care about without any explanation… damn internet friendships.
You guys might hear of it though… a friend at work lurks a bit (or did anyway) at another forum I post at, and he might think to post there if I passed on, but I have my doubts. And then if he did, my two closest friends would read it there, and one of them posts here and the other lurks here occaisionally, so they might think to post it here.
If I died, you’d probably never know it. I’ve met a large number of dopers IRL but can’t say I know any well enough to expect them to conclude I’m demised by my absence (beatle, for example, is the doper I’ve met most often; which works out to four times in two years). And no one I know IRL knows I frequent this board.
And I don’t plan on changing this. I considered setting up some kind of notification plan. After Wally’s death, I even took some tentative steps in that direction. But on further consideration, I decided to intentionally avoid notifying people.
When I die, what purpose will be served by telling everyone here? I don’t think I have any enemies who’ll enjoy the news; so it’ll be greeted with either indifference or sorrow. Indifference is hardly the memorial anyone would seek and I’m equally uninterested in causing sorrow.
So I’d rather depart into a veil of mystery. If I stop posting, and my absence is noted, you can freely assume it’s because I’ve joined a cult that abstains from the use of electricity, or been abducted by aliens, or decided to devote my life to being Jennifer Connelly’s love toy.
Well, all my friends know about my involvement with the board… Whenever I start a conversation with “There was this thread on the SDMB…” they all roll their eyes.
I have gotten a good friend of mine and my boyfriend to post a few times, but I doubt anyone would think of posting it on here.
I don’t think people would really care, anyway. I mean, I love this board but I haven’t really developed any very personal relationships.
I’m sorry, but that had me laughing SO damned hard .
Now, in my case my ace legal team of ** Hungadunga, Hungadunga and Hungadunga** has instructions to send a carrier pidgeon to TubaDiva. It will have a death certificate and the member names of those people who I have an immense crush on. ( Thank god for microfiche ).
The Mighty TubaDiva will then dash off a heartfelt yet business-like missive to the Teeming Millions. It will most likely read something like…
phantomdiver, who I think maybe lurks here now. would post about it. Or she’d load my buddy list and find a name she knows and tell that person, who would post about it at some point:)
Look, this is just getting too depressing. I can’t HANDLE the thought of all y’all just one day not being there. Too many good, quality people here to contemplate ANY of you leaving. Now stop it. I’m all paranoid, now - I want each of you to come by here and give me a hug and promise me you’re not going anywhere. I’m serious.
Okay, as to the OP:
Well, it’s certainly not the sort of thing I’d want my family (my dear jkayla, or my brother Deacon’s Trucked) to have to deal with at that time.
I guess I’d trust my friend and co-worker Saint Polycarp to handle for me.
Naturally, I don’t have to worry about having to return the favor, because, as we all know, Poly will be called home with a flash of light and carried up on a cloud, which everyone shall see (CNN will cover it).
As to you all who think no-one will miss you, I will, so you just give me a call when you pass on and I promise to get the word out.
I’m guessing Muffinman would post something if I were no more…assuming he even found out! I’ve actually wondered about that too, how many of my real life friends would find out if I died, because they’re scattered. I’m sure my mom would call work, so my McDonalds people would find out. And I just told my sister to notify everyone in my address book for me (“Hey Sara, if I die, come on my screenname and tell everyone in my address book I’m dead, ok?” “Whatever.”) So yeah, I’m covered. So Muff and Airman, if you ever get an email concerning my departure, post a thread on here for me. You’re the only dopers in my address book, if i recall.
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