Hard to say. I’ve never had a “love of my life” so far, but…
Say, my hypothetical wife who I love from the bottom of my heart gets in a car accident, and the only way they’re able to save her is to transplant her brain into a man’s body?
I think…yeah, I’d stay with “her.” If I really loved someone, it shouldn’t matter what’s happened to their body. I’m not saying it would be easy to get used to, but I wouldn’t want to give up on love true without a damned hard fight.
If there is another pair of boodies involved, then the deal is 100% off. No way. No boobies. So, here’s one female voting “no.”
Boobies. Boobies. And I previewed.
By Fish: “I would be delighted to show her the finer points of covering first base. Or maybe we could go fishing or sump’n. But not that.”
Me too! I only want to be intimate with females.
Sorry to be unromantic, but no. I’m straight and sex with a man, no matter who it is, is a major turnoff. I think the straight women who are saying “sure!” would probably find the reality a little tougher to cope with, but that’s just my take…
Can’t say I blame Eve at this point. We’ve had about 5 of these threads now, and she’s right about the fact that gender and sexuality aren’t the same, and nobody cares. 
Whenever we have a thread in GD about the causes of homosexuality (every other week or so), somebody will ask the question “do you think you can just choose who you’re attracted to?” Apparently most of the people in these threads think the answer is yes - although nobody ever says that in GD. If the love of my life changed gender and I was bi or somehow became gay, yes, I’d have sex with… shim? If I temporarily changed gender magically and was attracted to women, I’d have sex with them; if I was attracted to men I’d probably do that if the concept didn’t gross me out too much. You don’t get to choose, in my experience… how many people here have really had sex with the gender you’re not attracted to “just to see what it was like?” Not thinking about it, I mean actually doing it. I’m not even close to homophobic, but I sure couldn’t.
Yes, I would, but I am bisexual (would my SO be otherwise feminine acting? I don’t care for feminine men… I like ‘em manly: cursin’, spittin’, ball scratchin’, the works…). Nonetheless, I believe that those who are not naturally attracted to the sex that their SO would have to turn into are kidding themselves. Love might conquer all at first, but eventually one’s desire would start to wander…
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If my husband suddenly had a female body, no I would not have sex with him. Although I’m quite fond of my own breasts and vagina, I have absolutely zero interest in anyone else’s. Besides, if I had to have sex with a woman, I bet I could find somebody a lot prettier than him. 
Of course, it would probably be a moot question, anyway; he’d probably be so busy groping himself he wouldn’t want to have sex anyway.
That’s a good point.
If it were instantaneous and not premeditated, then I would probably try everything I could to learn to cope with the loss of my boyfriends equipment. I reckon this is the same as learning to cope with someone who loses an arm or a leg.
However, if my boyfriend came to me and confided that he truly felt he was a woman and intended to become so through surgical means or otherwise, I doubt we could save the relationship. (Assuming he wanted to, of course)
It has less to do with a vagina and breasts than it does with the fact that I don’t feel intimately close to women. I can’t even tell you what exactly would have to change for my SO to become a woman, but it’s certainly more than breasts and a vagina.
Hah, I thought about writing the subject as “if your SO changed sex, would you still have sex?” but I thought that was a bit repetitive and I figured that most people would unhesitantly understand me anyway. My Editor-in-Chief would have killed me if I wrote gender instead of sex while I was under his exacting eye – so I do know better, and I do care.
See, I love my husband, and I love my husband because he’s my friend and we have a LOT of fun together – nonsexually and sexually. If he suddenly had a vagina I wouldn’t want him to go haring off after someone who had a penis because he still wanted physical gratification. I would want to satisfy his sexual urges because I love him and I value him and I want to keep him mine.
MY wants and needs – about my preference for penises – wouldn’t even enter into it. It would take some getting used to, of course, but I value him and his wants enough to get over the initial ick-factor. I wouldn’t want to lose him for whatever reason.
Is it selfish to consider your wants over the wants of your love?
Well, supposing that he (she) still wanted to have sex with me, I suppose I might give it a wirl. I’m not sure how well it would work, because I’ve very pro penis, but I guess there are alternatives.
Also, he (she) would have to be really flat chested. Another set of boobs running around the bed would be very distracting.
Me. I think you’ll find a much higher number of gay people answering yes to that one than straight people though. (no much societal pressure to be gay, you know)
One thing that I think affects the answer, however, is just what all is changed- we are really talking about three variables that are interrelated but not the same.
If Steven suddenly became physically a woman, but did not change gender or orientaion then we would litterly have a gay man stuck in a womans body. If his gender had not changed, he would NOT be happy with his physical form. That would really suck, and I would hope that whatever evil genie inflicted this curse upon him would have to pay the karmic costs. I mean having a sex change is just not something that is without trauma, much less having two- one magical and then the surgical one that would be required in order to aproximate his orignal form and self-identity. This would be really awkward for me and I would like to think I would not leave him for something that happened to him through no fault of his own, but honestly it might depend on how it worked out. Good marriages have broken up over far less. To my mind this would be morally equivelent to a disfiguring accident that permenantly imparied sexual function, and staying with your partner through the ordeal an subsequent attempt to correct it that might or might not work.
If Steven’s Gender were to change, but not his physical sex nor his attraction, then he would suddely be a straight woman trapped in a mans body. This would be a really wierd one too. I guess it would depend on how much his gender change altered his personality and essential self. There would definatly be major changes. Again, this would be a curse and a sex change operation is expensive and traumatic. I can’t really see us staying together with him having the female gender, but the whole concept of not leaving your lover because of something traumatic done to him/her would apply. It could actually play out so many ways, depending on what she wanted in the end.
If Gender and Sex were changed, and attraction stayed the same I would be dating a straight woman. I’ve been there and done that. I decided it wasn’t fair to sleep with women would I knew I would rather be with men. however, because we already have an existing romantic relationship, it would change things. I really can’t say how it would play out either- so much would depend on how she felt about things now. I couldn’t see us breaking up right away, but on down the line- who knows?
Now if Gender and Sex and attraction all changed, I can catagorically say all bets would be off. I really can’t see myself continuing to date a lesbian. Actually, if his attraction changed in any permutaion, all bets would be off.
Can you come down from the tree now? You are starting to freak me out…
Hmm…
I don’t think I’d know until/unless it actually happened. There’d be a lot of tension, a lot of tugs on me in opposing directions. At what point does touching become “sex”? I think I’d probably just see how things go and how I felt from moment to moment. If I got icked out, then not that time. If I got icked out repeatedly, then probably no, not ever.
For the kinks, yeah. But I would just want her to be well, her
No, you can’t choose who you’re attracted to… hence crushes and various other unrequited love situations, none of which are fun. You can, however, choose which attractions to acknowledge and/or pursue, and if you’ve already got a bit of an inclination/curiousity (which is the case with many women), all you’ve got left to do is give yourself the OK, which would be more than excusable in a situation such as this.
I would say that’s not just ‘to find out what it’s like,’ but I do get your meaning.
I dunno. Is it selfish to expect someone who is completely and totally unaroused by you to have sex so you can get your jollies?
For me, it’s not a matter of having a preference for penises, or an “ick factor”; it’s a matter of not finding women arousing at all. Show me video of the female anatomy that has every man in a fifty mile radius drooling onto the screen, and I’ll say, “That’s nice, dear, don’t forget you have a dentist appointment tomorrow. Oh, and have you seen my toenail clippers?”
I understand that he would have sexual needs, and I’d give him all the time and space he needed to satisfy them. Hell, I’d share my toys with him. I would not, however, consent to lying there bored and dry while he got his kicks. It wouldn’t be fair to either of us.
I don’t really see the gender change in comparison to losing an arm or leg. My hubby is not completely tied up (persona-wise) in his arm or leg, but is completely invested in his masculinity, and I like it that way. If he was just as “him”, but female, he’d have damned few female friends, I’ll tell ya that 
Don’t know if I’d still have sex with him, but I’d sure as hell stick around long enough for him to get a period at least once, just so I could say “I toldja so!”
The best and most intimate thing me and the wife do is: venture out into the world, make fun of, and laugh at people and things we see. I could tolerate the loss of anything but that. Sorry for wandering off of the OP, I just wanted tell about what I think is the most important thing in my life.