I think the title says it all. This was inspired by some of the other gender-change threads.
I would! I love my husband, and he’s still my husband no matter what.
I’m really interested in hearing from homosexuals about this.
No. If someona changed gender all of a sudden, they AREN’T the same person. Part of what makes Mrs. RickJay who she is is that she is a woman. If she magically became a man she/he would not be the same person.
. . . Ah yes. Much like Jim Carrey was inspired by Jerry Lewis . . .
[Eve goes into the back yard and quietly hangs herself from a willow tree]
I don’t think it’s a silly question. I have contemplated it myself. But since I don’t have a love of my life, I can’t really answer that. It would be difficult, for one, to think that they are, indeed, the same person if this occured by magical means.
If it occured by medical means, I probably would not, if this were done without my knowledge (unlikely.) If done with my knowledge, probably still not, but I would probably still love them enough to engage in much more PDAs than I am usually comfortable with with a MOTSS.
“If the love of your life changed gender, would you still have sex with him/her?”
If the question is just would I have sex with him when he changed into a she, then YES! Definitely. I’m straight but I’ve always been curious, having missed the obvious opportunities in college.
But stay with her? I don’t know of course, they would be a different person. it would take time to decide.
Never having been in such a situation, I suppose I’d give it a try. Why not? Might be just as good as before. (I’m straight - probably - but I prefer not to say that, as I don’t want to limit/overclassify myself.)
However, I’m curious about something. Some of you have said that they would be a different person. What exactly would be different? What does it mean to be a man/woman, anyway?
Loaded question. To clarify, for my own personal use:
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Is this partner still as masculine/feminine as s/he was in the past?
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Same (gender-blind) quirks? Do those gender-based quirks carry over into the respective (if there are any) areas for the opposite sex?
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Does this partner still desire me?
I think it’s slightly naive to say that if a person changes gender, all that changes is the plumbing. While that may well be true for some people, I don’t know enough to blindly (I don’t know it well enough to ascribe it with any more legitimate accuracy than blind) ascribe it to anyone in particular.
Would I still love my husband if he changed genders?
Absolutely.
Would I still want to have sex with him?
Very much so. The fact is, we’ve been working pretty hard to perfect technique for the past 5+ years and he’s quite good at what he does. Our sex life includes so much more than intercourse that I don’t even think I’d miss it, and as for his new body…well…I have one word:
Boobies
If we are just talking about the person changing their physical traits but not their mind (and soul if you beleive in such things), then of course I would. To not do so would be like refusing to love someone you used to love because they have lost a leg or arm, or because they are no longer capable of a sexual act you used to enjoy together. I am not sure that you can even call such a change a change of gender though.
Looking in dictionary (Websters New World, College Dictionary)
Gender 2, the fact or condition of being male or female human being, esp. with regards to how this affects or determines a person’s self-image, social status, goals, etc.
If someone changed their gender wouldn’t they become a different person (different self-image, goals )?
I agree that it’s a loaded question. Honestly I could say that I wouldn’t have sex with my S.O. if she was to suddenly become male. I’d still love her, but part of what I love about her is the Femaleness! All the tiny and fascinating things that a woman has and does that makes her so very different from myself. I’m not attracted to men sexually, Nor am I particularily Bi-curious…(perhaps women are more naturally bi curious?). It’s totally different than saying that your S.O. was to become unable function sexually. If she was unable she’d still be a woman and have all the aforementioned traits that make me attracted. Men don’t possess those trait no matter how much I love thier mind and personality. Love is more than sex, and it is more than a physical attraction. For many people it’s both.
Hmmm, several factors to consider here… would they still act the same as before? Would they look reminiscent of their former self? … If they acted the exact same, and it was just like same-person-different-body, that might turn me off… I don’t want to sleep with a girl that completely acts like a guy, and definitely not vice versa. But if they didn’t act like themselves, that wouldn’t be the person I fell in love with, and then why stay with them? Also, if they looked reminiscent of their former self, I think I’d get quite freaked out. I tend to go for very masculine-looking guys, and if I don’t find manly-looking females attractive.
So I guess… probably I wouldn’t, unless the new version was just very hot. 
I think people are answering two different questions here.
Is the person magically changed all of a sudden? Or are we talking about some more real mechanism ie. the love of your life comes out to you as transgendered?
Sure. She’s bi, so it wouldn’t be an issue for her. I’m easily entertained, so it wouldn’t be an issue for me. The only thing that would really matter is if s/he still smelled right. What my mother would say if I came home with a man I don’t know. Possibly “Nu? So now you can get married legally.”
Now, if this is to be accomplished surgically, I want the opportunity to give some feedback on the choices–plumbing vs erections, e.g. If it’s magical, I think a gigantic penis would be in order. I mean, if you’re going to do it, do it right.
Okay, I see I will have to clarify what I meant.
Imagine you have been with your significant other (wife in this instance) for many years. One morning you turn over to kiss her awake and you notice that she has morning wood.
Magically, if you really want to know, although I wouldn’t like a picture of the faerie that would wave that wand…
Um, no. I’m not attracted physically to other men. It wouldn’t happen. Considering she’d probably still be attracted to me, I’d probably be creeped out by the whole thing.
I would be delighted to show her the finer points of covering first base, though. Or maybe we could go fishing or sump’n. But not that.
Okay, magically.
Hmm… well, my guy would make a spectacularly unattractive woman. Other than that, while I’m sure dynamics would change, I don’t really put a lot of stock in stereotypical male/female differences.
Which is all to say, if it was still really him, just in a different form, it wouldn’t matter because I love him no matter what he looks like. Male or female doesn’t make a huge difference.
No way, testicles (especially artificial ones) creep me out . I’m not going to radically change my sexualty to accommodate hers (or I guess his now).
Well all my loves of my life have been “in touch with their feminine sides” so yes I would but I would be sad to see the penis go. I think those guys would both be the same person if they turned into a woman. I would just hope they didn’t have giant floppy breasts. (Even though one of them kind of already did.)
I talked about this with my first love when we saw something like this on Jerry Springer. The girl was dating a guy who had a surpise. He had a vagina! Surprise! He also had a penis and had been in sex movies. She still liked him. So me and the boyfriend had the “would you still love me if I had a vagina/penis” talk. Right off I knew that a vagina wouldn’t bother me at all if it was hidden behind a fully functioning set of male genitalia. It’s like when you get a free gift with purchase tote bag, it’s not something you would want but you find a use for it, right? He said that he would accept my penis if I had hidden it for two months because after two months he knew he loved me but if I had shown it in the first two months he would have said “no thank you, dude.”
So it would be the loss of the penis that would be the biggest deal to me. And the appearance of breasts (or bigger breasts as the case may be.) I’d adjust but it would be like if he got acid thrown on his face or lost his legs or something. I would still love him but it would be a pretty sad day.
One last thing is that he better not be prettier than me. Or borrow my clothes.
Wow. The consensus seems to be that women don’t really care about what equipment you carry, but the men do.
Do you think this is correct?
Well, not having an SO at the moment I can only take a WAG but here goes…
No I would not have sex with her/him because although there are ways for 2 men to have sex, none of those (at least the ones I’ve heard of) particularly appeal to me (e.g. the “back door” is off limits).
But I’ll take the question a step further and say that if it was me that changed and not her, I’d go for it. Reason being, there seem to be more options (i.e. toys) that duplicate the function of a penis than a vagina, so it is very easy for me to envision two women together without invoking the so called “ick factor”.
So that might be the reason for the skewed consensus.