If you got to change 3 things in your past what would it be?

First thing: I would have been there to stop my mom. I would give up anything to change that.

Second thing: I would not have messed around so much my senior year. Whoo boy. I would have been able to graduate with my class. Yeah I’m not stupid just dumb

Third thing: I dont really have a third one. Three just sounded a lot better than two. Well I’m probaly going to regret those ultra hot wings I had for dinner.

So if you had the chance to change 3 things in your past what would they be?

  1. Given college a better shot.
  2. Attended one more Dead show (hit 49 then Jerry died).
  3. Took more chances.
  1. Talked to someone about my problems my senior year of college instead of trying to drink and eat away the pain, skipping class, and almost not graduating.

  2. Not entering a very destructive relationship. or finding the courage to end it sooner. (Yes, I know this is vague, but it’s as specific as I’m gonna get, so deal.)

  3. Finding the strength to stand up to my parents a long time ago. Either that, or just tell them off.

1: I would have finished high school. I dropped out the 2nd semester of my Jr year. Pretty dumb thing to do so close to the end. My parents were divorcing and it really messed me up. I did get my GED though.

2: Dumped the evil girlfriend I had during the first days that I knew her. OR choose to not have known her at all.

3: If number 2 was corrected, there wouldn’t have been a number three, so no need to put that one here.

I would have gone to University of Florida instead of the University of South Florida. I got wait listed at U of F because I applied too late, but all I could think of was moving out of the house so I went to USF instead. Once I got to USF (U Stay Forever), I lost my motivation to switch schools. BIG mistake.

I wish I had never wasted so much time on the last jerk I “dated.”

I wish I had chosen to go with my father and brother to Hawaii.

Oh, I know you are supposed to view your less than stellar life moments as learning experiences, and regret nothing, but I guess I am not that emotionally healthy yet! :slight_smile:

  1. Finished my degree
  2. Finished my book and sent it to the damned publisher even if he was a jerk
  3. Made the bloody obstetrician do a proper scan of my baby who died instead of letting him send me home when I knew things were going wrong.

Geez.

Maybe the next decade will be better

  1. Wouldn’t have let things degenerate with my ex

  2. Wouldn’t have fled to the other side of the world if step a didn’t work …

  3. When I came back from overseas, I should have come straight to my friends … instead of going to try again.

  1. Would not have married my ex.

  2. Would not have blown my college scholarship.

  3. Would not have married my ex (yes, it was so bad it counts twice).

#1 - I would have finished school
#2 - I would not have married my first husband after knowing him for only two months.
#3 - I wouldn’t have done whatever I did that gave me the Hepatitis C virus.

If I could do it all over again…

  1. I would figure out a way to break up my best friend and her abusive boyfriend. It was when we were 13/14. Their relationship lasted almost four years, and it left lasting scars on us all.

  2. I would go with Paul to the Senior Prom instead of with Henry. Paul had a years-long crush on me, and I should have gone out with him when I had the chance. He treated me wonderfully, and was a wonderful guy. I haven’t seen him in five years, and I miss him. :frowning:

  3. I would have stayed in college a couple more semesters to take all the classes I was curious about.
    So many regrets! :frowning: {{{{fellow dopers}}}}

  1. Taken care of my body/health better.

  2. Finished college.

  3. Lived on my own for awhile before I got married.

  1. I would have kept in touch with friends better.

1.Not had my first son one month after I turned 17.

2.Not met, or even heard of, my ex.

3.Found some way to stop being miserably unhappy and angry as a teen.Then I would probably have made more effort with my education and really been somewhere by now.I know I would have made better choices.

  1. Paid more attention in college, so I could have retained more.

  2. I would have decided not to go to graduate school

  3. I would like to have kept up my exercise routine after graduating. I’m trying to get into it again and its an uphill battle.

(1) I would’ve done the year abroad in England that I talked myself out of my junior year in college

(2) I would’ve slept around a lot less in college, and focused more on having a healthy attitude about sex (Jesus I hope I didn’t know any of you in college)

(3) I would’ve figured out how to pursue friendships with people. I’ve always sucked at this – I still do – and my past is full of amazing, inspiring people whom I wished I had gotten to know better.

  1. I moved out of my parent’s house on my 18th birthday just so I could have a little freedom and I wasn’t making much money at my job so I didn’t think I could afford to go to college. I didn’t know I could apply for grant/loans that would help pay tuition and living expenses. I wish I would have gone to college back then though and still lived on my own. It probably would’ve been fun.

  2. I would have dated the loser that took my virginity but I wouldn’t lose my virginity to him. I would still date him though because he showed me what I don’t want in a man and that was a valuable lesson for me.

  3. I wouldn’t have married my ex-husband just because I was pregnant. I don’t regret the pregnancy part of the realtionship but I was miserable for the 2 years we were married and I could’ve saved myself all that crap I went through.

  1. I wouldn’t have been pretty much constantly stoned and drunk throughout high school, college, and grad school.

I, uh, forget the other 2. Now where’s that hairshirt?

  1. I would have gone to college right out of high school.

  2. I would not have married my ex-husband.

  3. I would have taken more risks with my career and my personal life.

Needs2know

  1. joined the Air Force instead of the Army
  2. joined at an younger age, 18, as opposed to 20.
  3. nothing else. my life is good the way it is, minus the lack of females involved intimately with me.