The phrase “ultimate sex toy” in the Fleshlight thread in IMHO got me thinking: what if the ultimate sex toy really existed? What would it be? And if you had it would you want/need a significant other? Would it change the way you viewed sexual relationships? Would such sex toys change human relations in general?
Here’s the thing: I would define the “ultimate sex toy” as being a commercially available object/device that is sexually as fulfilling as/more fulfilling than any human relationship. If you have the Ultimate Sex Toy you lie in bed feeling good from head to toe after using it, because it’s just that good.
I’m not going to say exactly what it is because it’s really not important – the important thing is the idea that it exists, and how it might change people. But just to get you thinking, for a straight guy or a gay gal it might be a female android that looks/smells exactly like a real woman, can be customized to any appearance facially and physically, and easily changed when desired, is programmed to worship you (or despise you, if that’s what gets you off) only has those sexual inhibitions that you choose to program into it, etc., etc. Let’s say for a hypothetical guy, he has an android that looks like Jessica Alba and behaves like Jenna Jameson in the bedroom, and smells like bacon frying/whatever for any value of what a man might find desirable.
Why would he bother to date?
The same question for gals or for gay guys: an android that looks like Brad Pitt and likes to go shopping and has a nine inch vibrating cock and a matching tongue/whatever for any value of what a woman might find desirable.
Why would she bother to date?
Would YOU bother to date if you had such a device?
Or would you just make sex an unimportant part of what you look for in a significant other?
Would marriage become simply a matter of setting up an arrangement for bearing children?
Yeah I would still want a significant other. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy masturbation, and variations therof, but beyond a certain thrill it is kind of like tickling yourself- its not quite the same as if someone else was doing it.
I don’t think a sex toy could emulate the spontinaeity, sex appeal, and (for me, because I’m weird about this) smells that a real woman could provide.
That isn’t to say I’m opposed to sex toys in principle. But I can’t fathom it replacing the real thing
If all you wanted in a partner was the capacity to be a high tech sperm dumpster or senso-probe orgasm provider then human SO’s might be on the “B” list, but once you hose down your android and put away the robo-cock most people might still want to go dancing or be looking for a night out with a little conversation.
So what if you could buy an android that would feel exactly like “someone else was doing it”? Although that line about “like tickling yourself” is interesting. Maybe no matter how exactingly made, just the knowledge that it wasn’t another person would make it a different experience?
Spontaneity you can get from friends. Sex appeal – the ultimate sex toy would be DESIGNED to be ultimately sexually appealing. And the smell … BACON FRYING! What mere human smell can match bacon frying?
But that’s the thing… sex appeal is a whole lot more spontaneous and esoteric than something that can be “designed”.
And again, because I can’t emphasize this enough… it doesn’t WANT you. And maybe I’m just extraordinarily narcissistic or something, but I’m most turned on by a guy who finds me just as irresistable as I find him.
If it were programmed to want you, it WOULD want you. I mean, how do you know your desires are any more valid and real that then desires of a machine programmed to have such desires?
Sure, most people would want a social life. But there are a lot of people who have social lives who don’t have sex partners. You don’t need a sex partner to go to a club or have dinner out … friends can do that.
You know, my only response to that is, ew. Sure, it’s not eloquent, but hey, it’s late and I’m sick.
I suppose there are people in the world who would be content with something that’s “programmed” to like them. I prefer to take my chances at attracting actual people.
I don’t know. I kind of get the impression that the people who would prefer sex-bots and orgasmatrons are more likely to plop their rear ends into a chair post andro-coitus for a marathon round of Second Life or WoW vs taking their sexy selves out clubbing. It’s just a guess.
I have a SO because it is a best friend who I can have sex with. If my sex needs are satisfied elsewhere, that SO becomes just another friend. At this point in life I see no problem with that.
I’m with DianaG. The NYT 2 (3?) weeks ago had an article about what turns women on. Being desired is a huge part of it. An android can’t tell me I’m sexy, or how it can’t wait to do me, and mean it. Sure it can be programmed, but that doesn’t make it true. Also, your premise implies that this android will be as good as any human, but what makes it better? The fact that you can program how it smells? Give me a break.
I have neither the ultimate sex toy nor a significant other. I would rather have the ultimate sex toy than the SO.
I’ve never had an SO that improved my overall satisfaction with my life. But I bet the sex toy could do it.
I’ll take the version that you envision for men, where I can change the way it looks at will. And it doesn’t have to pretend I’m irresistible. And make it a normal-sized cock, for heaven’s sake. And let the shopping it likes to do be at the grocery store picking up my vittles. But I think that’s expecting a bit much from a sex toy. That’d be like doing it with Rosie the Robot.
But men are programmed to like women, and women are programmed to like men. I mean, come on, if teen and twentysomething women had to make rational decisions to have sexual relationships with teen and twentysomething men, the race would die out in a generation or two.
I think if what you described were available, I would send Brad Pitt out to earn a living so my husband and I could just hang out together, take long walks in the woods, watch movies and have lots of old-fashioned sex all day long.
