Like jsgoddess, coincidentally, I am going to be remarrying.
I don’t think I’d choose to marry in the same place I got married to my ex. That was something that was kind of special to the two of us (or, at least to me – no idea what the ex would say about it now) and has no meaning to my relationship with my fiancee now. I think it would actually feel somewhat forced if I tried to get married there again.
But the honeymoon? Well, my ex and I honeymooned in Vegas. jsgoddess and I met for the first time in Vegas and spent our anniversary there as well. Vegas has always been a fun place for me, and we’ve discussed getting married there. The idea of honeymooning there doesn’t bother me at all. I wouldn’t mind staying in the Bellagio again (although it wouldn’t be my first choice) or even seeing the same shows (“O,” “Forever Plaid,” a Garbage concert) if it came up again. I don’t think it’s terribly likely that we’d follow that same path, but if the options were there, I don’t feel anything that would make me want to shy away from them.
When I got married we did a short weekend trip to Wisconsin Dells, then a weekend trip to Vegas a few weeks later and then few months after that we had our official honeymoon at Niagara Falls (in winter). The first two are typical vacation spots that I would have a second thought about going back to, but not as honeymoon, just as a weekend getaway. If I got married again and she wanted to honeymoon at Niagara Falls, that would be fine by me, mainly because to me it’s a pretty touristy area as opposed to some unique super-romantic area that we spend months picking out.
We spent 3 days in Monterey. It was lovely, and I don’t think I would want to do the same thing again with a different person. No. Anyway, I don’t remember the name of the hotel.
Not that I plan to remarry anyway (which sounds like I’m not married now, and I am). But hypothetically.
Thinking about this question makes me realize that I’m the kind of person who might end up going to the same place without really thinking about it, and then being surprised to realize it about halfway through (and then shrugging it off).
My ex and I honeymooned in Las Vegas, and I’d go back, just not as part of my honeymoon should I remarry. I think I’d rather go somewhere that has a beach.
My partner and I never had a proper honeymoon, so there’s no “same place” to go to. But I know that if, for whatever reason, I were to get a new partner, we’d honeymoon in Paris. I’m planning my fifth trip there this summer, and I’d love to show the city to someone who’s never been there.
At the risk of sounding wishy-washy, I have no idea.
We honeymooned at Disney World, and it’s still one of our favorite places to vacation. If my darling wife should happen to precede me into the great beyond (or whatever), part of me thinks I wouldn’t ever enjoy being there without her, and part of me thinks it would be a comforting and special place to me. I don’t think I can possibly know which will be the case unless I’m actually faced with the reality.
If I should subsequently want to marry someone who’s also a Disneyphile, my guess is that I could probably go back there for another honeymoon. But again, I don’t know with any certainty at all.
Well, I don’t think I’ll ever marry again; I’m not looking to get divorced, and for a number of reasons, I’m pretty sure he’ll outlive me, so I’m in it 'til the end! But FWIW, my husband and I had what little honeymoon we had where he had his honeymoon with his first wife. It didn’t seem to bother him a bit, though to be fair, he’s not the sentimental type. I’ll admit it might have bothered me if he’d insisted on staying at the same hotel or whatever (which we didn’t), but as it was, we were both fine with it.
I wouldn’t suggest it but if the new Mrs Notquitekarpov really wanted to go on safari in Botswana then I would love to go back to the Okavango Delta, which is where the current Mrs NQK and I honeymooned. Fabulous trip - and one we probably cannot afford to repeat until we retire or win the lottery.
I would make sure mark II knew of my previous associations with the place though beforehand and was cool with that. I would give the Victoria Falls bit a miss though second time around…
Fingers crossed this does not bring down bad karma and all that.
My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we have a honeymoon every year, sometimes twice in a year. And it’s always someplace new.
With all of the places to go, why go to the same one twice? For any reason? I mean, my wife and I have visited some of the same cities more than once, but it was associated with business and we combined pleasure with it.
I haven’t had a honeymoon, but there are a lot of places we’ve been to that I wouldn’t be that happy about going to on a hypothetical honeymoon with a hypothetical new partner. Big cities, like Rome (our first holiday together) or Paris (our tenth anniversary), I don’t think I could or would want to avoid going back to forever, but there are plenty of places I would probably never want to see again without my current partner.
Actually, I can’t really think about it. It makes me feel anxious - which isn’t like me. Maybe I’ll go and get a hug.
