Recently talked to an ex that I hadn’t spoken with since the breakup, which was years and years ago. He thinks that, if the distance hadn’t been put between us, we could have stayed a couple and been good for each other. To put it bluntly, when he mentioned this, I was a little shocked at the stupidity of this idea. Looking back on the relationship, I broke up with him well after I should have, as our differing interests and POVs on just about everything kept us arguing with each other and I often found myself bored when hanging out with him doing stuff that he liked to do. I’m pretty sure that there was really only one thing that had kept us together that whole time, and it was the sexual compatibility. Not a good thing to base a relationship on…
Her: I know I’ve made mistakes Palindrome. I always made you feel inadequte…
palindromemordnilap: We broke up because you never listened to me.
Her: And I never let you hang out with the guys for Monday night football…
P: No, it was that you never listened to me.
Her: I was too controlling…
P: No, you never listened to me.
Her: I didn’t take you seriously
P: You never… l-i-s-t-e-n-e-d spells “listened”… to me!
Her: I didn’t like your mom…
P: ::headdesk:: LISTENED! ::headdesk:: LISTENED! ::headdesk:: LISTENED!
Her: I didn’t let you keep that puppy that followed you home…
She was deluding herself the guy ever would change. Or was he like that when she met him?
Mine thought if he changed, I’d forget everything and instantly revert to Happy Awesome Girlfriend. When this obviously wasn’t happening, he pitched an ultimatum: either we’re Happy Awesome Couple again, or he’s leaving.
A week before he left, he asked to get laid one last time. I declined.
Started a thread about crazy exes over here… we kinda seemed to have morphed this thread into a crazy ex thread, and I think they deserve their own kind of bizarre recognition.
Thats illegal in 11 southern states and a capital offense in the Republic of California where they take their shui very seriously.
My ex-husband was totally bewildered and amazed by my request for a divorce, although I had given him back my wedding ring and had been sleeping on the couch for almost two years at that point. Isn’t that what all happy wives do?
Dated a guy once (once) who said that he’d written a fantastic movie script, but that someone had stolen it out of his backpack, sold it to Hollywood, and it had been made into a blockbuster movie.
That was when he was in eighth grade, and he just hadn’t had the heart to write since then.
Except in my case, I said that the sky is generally blue, and she says that it’s plaid.
what then?
Ahhhh self delusion.
When I was a college prof, I saw much self delusion.
I knew people who wanted to get into a certain program. This program (at another university known for this program) had tons of people appying for it. You pretty much needed an undergraduate 4.0 GPA with all sorts of hard classes in your undergrad.
Anyway, I would routinely meet these students…getting a D of F in a remedial math course.
I learned early on to never tell these students directly what was up…because then you would get complaints to college admin about ‘squelching their dreams’. After the 2nd one I just stopped trying to help them in this way.
Still, though, there was this desire to tell them that they were taking up the wrong career aspirations or they needed to get the lead out of their lazy ass so you would say something along the lines of “OH! program xxxx! My sister wanted to get into that but that school didn’t accept her because her GPA was only 3.8 and had only taken up to Calc III”.
Nope…they would look at you and smile and assume that they could get in with D’s and remedial math.
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