She did do the right thing, anyone who says differently is either trolling or a sociopath.
Exactly. Also, if you think about it, the late ones were probably already pissed about whatever caused hem to get late. You never know; they could have gotten stuck in traffic or out of work late. Imagine how hard they probably tried to get here and they were already upset about getting there late. Then they receive this kind of treatment. I can understand what these late comers were probably feeling.
Now this could very well be an assumption, but this is what that usually means when someone comes late.
Like others have said in the thread, why didnt she just move two seats - almost an effortless move.
mademoiselle refused to move probably because she didn’t want to give up her little elbow room.
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Okay, I’m going to do two things here:
- Move this thread to the BBQ Pit.
- Merge the already existing Pit thread about it into this one.
Because at this point, it’s much better suited for this forum then it is IMHO.
Damn. You should have switched OP’s. 
Why should she have moved?
Idle thoughts moved the thread? I was already settled in and comfy cozy with my shoes off.
Courtesy? Life isn’t so short that one can’t take the time to be polite.
You really are an idiot. “This kind of treatment”, you make it sound as if the OP was flinging shit at them after a polite request to squeeze past, when instead all she did was quietly remain in her fucking seat.
Who gives a shit why the other two were late, there were plenty of seats in other rows to sit in without annoying a single other person in the theatre, they should have used them.
Actually, wait. I get it now. Another troll. Which board are you from this time.
Years ago I went to a blockbuster on opening day. Because I expected it to be packed, I went early so that I could get a good seat. I took a book to read while I waited.
A family of four walked in just as the trailers were ending and the movie was starting. They found 3 seats near me and asked me to move.
I thought about it. I really did. I usually try to be helpful if it doesn’t have too big an impact on my life.
But in the end I decided that I had paid for my good seat, both by actually paying and with my time by getting there early. I said I’m sorry, but no.
The guy called me an asshole as he walked down towards the open seats near the front row.
IMO, if you want a good seat, get there in time to get one. If you don’t leave in time to get the seat you want, I see no harm in asking someone if he/she will move, but you are not entitled to it and the world doesn’t owe you a thing.
What a bunch of candy-asses. I mean those of you who get up and move just to be polite. I cannot imagine being ordered around and doing it for the sake of keeping the peace. The OP did not start a fight. The only thing the OP did was go to a theater and pick out her seat. The other couple started the fight.
How does mademoiselle end up being the bad guy in this situation? I don’t see it at all. Not even a little bit. But it is good to know how many people there are out there who are so easy to take advantage of, who will acquiescent to requests from perfect strangers in order not to appear rude. Who will let strangers yell at them in public without a peep because, hey, bullying does work!
No, it is actually pretty common for a couple to ask another couple to better optimize the row usage. You keep on saying that there were other seats. Yeah, crap seats. Why shouldn’t they try to get better seats if they can. Like I said, there were 4 seats so two couples should have been able to sit there.
The problem is that the OP doesn’t have a valid excuse. She says it is because of sick people yet she fails to explain why she couldn’t have moved the other way so that the other couple would sit next to the sick. It seems as if she just wanted to keep her little extra elbow room. A selfish move - caring about her comfort before others. There is no reason she shouldn’t have moved.
And by treatment I mean that the OP’s actions were quite unusual. They were probably surprised that the OP didn’t move because most people would have moved. Like I have said, it is only common courtesy to do so.
I choose the time and place to make my stands.
In a crowded theater, when the movie has already begun, and I’m fortunate enough to have just come out of an illness alive and well, with my significant other and friends by my side? No. I’ll move my ass over as a courtesy to everyone in the vicinity, and then self-righteously rant about the rudeness after the fact. Not every rolling minute of my life calls for Rosa Parks type-assertiveness.
This. To the 10th power.
She was where she wanted to be, the couple had plenty of other reasonable options for seating, it’s a no brainer.
No they shouldn’t have. If they wanted to sit so badly in those seats, they should have gotten there early instead of trying to intimidate other people out of their seats, like the dumbfuck bullies they turned out to be.
The OP doesn’t need any goddamned excuse to sit in her seat. None. She picked her seat and liked it and no late-coming bully should force her out of it if she doesn’t want to move.
No it isn’t. What happened in this instance is that the OP was asked, she turned them down. This is common. Widespread, even. The extraordinary part is when the other couple started fighting with her. This is the part where self-entitlement left the realm of what ‘most people would have done.’
Just because YOU are a candy-ass who is easily intimidated by perfect strangers telling you what to do, does not mean that everyone is.
If it would’ve required you to move to a different row, IMO that’s (slightly) more of an imposition. Still pretty minor if we’re talking one row.
If it was like the OP’s standoff and only meant moving over one seat, it’s hard to imagine how that would turn a “good” seat into a “bad” one. Unless (like the OP) you were trying to maintain a buffer of empty seats around you, which is nice when it happens but not something you’re entitled to unless you paid for extra tickets.
But there should not be any cause for Rosa Parks type-assertiveness in this situation. You were asked to move, you decline-- end of story. Unless you weren’t asked to move. You were told to move. Because asking implies ‘no’ may be one of the answers.
Seriously, what am I missing here?
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Courtesy is a candy-assed position? Wow, you must be a joy at parties.
: pictures scenario with BigGirl talking to some poor schlep while blocking a hallway. Somebody needs to go to the bathroom and asks if they could move:
“Excuse me, I’m trying to get to the bathroom.”
“FUCK YOU! AND DON’T YOU DARE MOVE, SCHLEP, YOU CANDY-ASSED MO-FO!”
Nzinga is right - this thread is comedy gold!
Lemme see if I can chart this out …
X.X.X.X..A.B..X.X
Where X = random moviegoers, A=the OP’s SO, and B=the OP.
Another couple arrives and asks B if she could move over to permit the couple to sit together. There are a variety of ways in which this could be done - B could move over two seats, to the other side of A; both A and B could shift over one seat; or A could move two seats, to the other side of B. You will notice in TWO of these options, B is NOT forced to sit next to the germ-riddled moviegoer she was referring to.
So, there are other factors. Were there other open seats available in the upper, main seating area, or were the only available seats in the first five rows? The OP says this happened five minutes after the movie started. Is that really into the actual “feature presentation,” or simply the ads and previews?
The OP absolutely has the right to refuse to move. I think it’s somewhat rude and impolite, but it’s not breaking any laws. Once that refusal was given, the other couple should have just sucked it up and found other seats, or simply sat in the open seats on either side of A and B. Doing otherwise is definitely rude and assholish on their part.
Bottom line, though, is how much easier life would be if we all just displayed some civility and common courtesy. Being asked to move over to open up two consecutive seats at a movie is a common and reasonable request (as long as it’s done before the actual start of the movie); agreeing to such a request is a polite and courteous response. And as I think I have shown, the OP did have some options if staying away from Germy Moviegoer was her main concern.
Did she have the right to say no? Of course. Do I have the right to say she was kind of a jerk for saying no? Naturally. Did the other couple act like assholes just because the OP said no? Yes, they did. That makes them bigger jerks, but refusing to move “just because I don’t have to” is jerkish as well.
Uncle Jocko: Candy-Ass!